[Icefire_2010]

right where do i start?After reading many of the other posts my problem seems insignificant but im desperate
to shed sum nu light on it so it can finally make sense.
a few years ago i 'fell in love' wit one of my friends and we didnt do anything about it back then and we moved away to different schools,eventually we moved to the same school and within
months we got together because 'it' was still there...............A weeks after we started goin out i found out that even though he told all his friends about me and he apparently
couldnt stop talking about me, he'd told his sister that we werent goin out and that i was lying and that i'd made everything up.I understand why he said it coz if his dada found out he wud have flipped
so it made sense for him not to want his sister to know,but his sister is also my friend and i was so humiliated and i hated that she thought i was freak(though she never said it).
From the day i found out about this,i stopped talking to HIM and we started ignoring eachother.I never confronted him about it so he didnt know why i suddenly stopped talking to him.
this went on for about 3 months before i moved away. After about 18 months i met him again and although we hadnt spoken in all that time, he came over on xmas and we made up and he told me that he still loves me.
we're not officiallly back together now but we've stayed in touch for the last 6 months and i know he really does still love me and i love him too.
The problem is that i dont think this 'relationship' is healthy cos theres so much unresolved sexual tension(HES GOT THE BODY OF A GOD) and we cant do anything about it cos we're never completely alone so things become akward.
Shud i move on or shu i wait and see where this goes cos i know it cud be great but i dont wanna look back at this in a few years and regret all the time i wasted when i shud be out having fun.Im really confused so someone please help
and feel free to tell me if u think im a fool and that im just wasting my time...........

[bujumbura]

life is a one way street. we do regrettable things yes but u will never know if u dont try

[aluochnora]

why do you want to let him go?

[rake81]

aiii!!! how is it that u can never ever find time alone? isnt there somewhere u can go - and hook up?? spend sometime alone even though its not to necessarily have sex? i dono if u should give up yet...maybe give yourself sometime to figure this all out, then move on from there...

[Icefire_2010]

Originally Posted by aluochnora

why do you want to let him go?

its jst that i feel iv held on 4 too long,and sumthin alwys happens that prevents us frm being 2getha,lyk wen i 1st fell 4 him,i dndt think hed eva do anythin about it so i went out with his cousin instead cs i dnt like being alone.(in my defence i dnt kno they were cousins back then..)

[Fraglante]

If you love him why dont you just tell him how you feel?If its clear were you two stand then things will be easier.
If you want to be alone with him stop waiting around for it,just go ahead and make it happen.
When you have done what needs to be done and things still dont work out THEN you can let go and move on with your life.

[aluochnora]

Originally Posted by Icefire_2010

its jst that i feel iv held on 4 too long,and sumthin alwys happens that prevents us frm being 2getha,lyk wen i 1st fell 4 him,i dndt think hed eva do anythin about it so i went out with his cousin instead cs i dnt like being alone.(in my defence i dnt kno they were cousins back then..)

u seem to want commitment...work his way

[afwiti]

i think you should tell him youtrue feelings and don't leave anything out.if he is bright he will take you seriously.you know you love him so tell him exactly that then take it from there.

[Camylle]

ice fire...this guy smells trouble from a mile away, i say move on and let him be!!!i mean if the guy is into u as much as u think why wouldnt he want his sister to know ur dating? unless he's got something to hide, say like another galfriend who is acknowledged by the family...my point is he is not gud enuff to deserve u

all the best in letting him go....u'll need it coz u seem to be so into this guy..