[djflip]

^^^ AT Patt ^^

was that even necessary. Thye rudeness in this place amazes me sometimes.

[patt]

djflip

i guess you are one of those people who hate hearing the truth.

do i know you?

[Jibril Cessay]

Watu wengine jomoko yawa! Polygamy is not an outdated practise. Nor is it barbaric. Even in the West, peepz practise polygamy in form of serial-monogamy. Once u have had a mate and a few children, u r still linked together through the children. Mormons practise polygamy as well. In the Bible and in the Tanakh, u will find polygamy in abundance. David had many wives. So did Solomon. Elkanah, the father of Samuel(Shmuel) had 2 wives, Hannah and Peninnah. Abraham had 3 wives, Sarai (Sarah), Hagar and Keturah. Jacob had 2 wives Leah and Rachel.

Kenyans should accept polygamy like the Cameroonians. I fail to see why, peepz promote same-sex marriage and frown on polygamy. In the case of madame, it will be bigamy-one man, two wives.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/africa/6254935.stm

http://newsimg.bbc.co.uk/media/image...5_rings203.jpg

http://www.hbo.com/biglove/img/252x1...l_family01.jpg

[chotadipo]

@Jibril,

Bigamy means being married to another woman without your wife's knowledge.
Polygamy means married to more than one woman at the same time with their knowledge.

Bigamy is unlawful almost univaersally, polygamy is not.

@Kemi,

Kweli wewe ni wetu...and just to add on wht you and Jibril said, Islam allows it, and Japan has a legislation pending to make polygamy lawful in the near future as a way of increasing births

And for those who oppose polygamy, since it seems your main issue is sex, look for men with detachable pe!nises!

[Peach1980]

Hi Poly, I'm replying to your message from Kenya. Well, polygamy is still practised in Kenya, eventhough most people tend to hide and have mistresses instead. A polygamist man, so long he can take good care of his family, is respected. However, he has to try hard to make his wives get along, so that they can have a peaceful home.

I think this man loves you, otherwise he wouldn't have risked having you in a foriegn country. Just keep in mind that his wife comes first in everything, since she is the first wife, and for you to getalong well, you should always respect that!

I wish you all the best!

[Another day]

Dear Poly Curious,

Polygamy is still practiced in Kenya, but not as much, in fact it is almost obsolete in some cultures and still very prevalent in others. For instance if he is a young Kikuyu man, he is trying to have his cake and eat it too, if he is a luo, then he is probably telling you the truth but only because it suits him at the moment, ideally no young man in America is trying to spilt his income to support an old tradition. In general mistresses are more commonplace than second wives. Sometimes these mistresses are just that until years later when the first wife finds out that there exists another whole family elsewhere. Am sure you have heard of such cases in the US as well. The traditional polygamous families when two or more wives shared a homestead and the like are not that common anymore but it was more like what you see in the cases that were on news about Utah.

What is that on your reply about bisexual curiosities? I got quite confused about that. Whatever you mean by that, know it is usually not part of the package when you become a second wife.

Why are you agreeing to this kind of archaic arrangement? Seriously, it is rarely peaceful in this age because it is usually not a woman’s choice rather women find themselves in this mix-up and especially in Kenya where you may have children and no other means of an income except these greedy greedy men, they just succumb to it. It is in reality more passive than an agreement reached by all parties.

In short, it is less of a tradition and more of a greedy man using whatever power they have which in Kenya is usually money to satisfy his greed. At least in Kenya, these women don’t most often work and they get the financial support. What are you getting? You don’t have the man and I bet you are still working. Girl, listen to your American friends and especially, to prove the passive bit, compare answers from the ladies here and the men.

PS. You will read a lot of bull from most of the men that respond.

From a sincere Kenyan women.

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^^^^at pratt ^^

No you dont know me and I dont know what truth you are referring to. I am not a fat woman. I just think its extremely rude and childish to post responses like. If you have nothing to say......dont.

[Points]

I have done alot of psychology and find this to be a very simple case.
I will tell you that the answer lies in you and not wht we think. I must say that you would prefer to have the man for yourself from the tone of your question. My question to you is how much esteem/worth do you have to feel that you should share a man with another woman besides your better judgement?
There is someone who asked a question about you beauty or lack of and I believe he had the same approach as I do. See, your question would be much harder if you said that you always wanted polygammy life and then the questions would be the dynamics of polygammy life and whether or not it is practiced in Kenyan. To me you seem to consider polygammy becuase the man bought it up and now you feel that you ought to sacrifice something to accomodate his views and to maintain you status. You have to realize that this isn't love when you think it is or not. I am yet to figure out why women (mainly) tend to feel that they don't deserve much and that they have to make absurd sacrifices or decisions to be with the worng people. You describe clearly that this particular man was dealing the two of you without your knowledge (and I suspect the other woman didn't either) at first. I can rephrase my question and ask what qualities you demand from a man if you want to make such a powerful life decision for an arrogant man, who obviously has little respect for you (no matter what he tells you)?

[patt]

stop biatching like a woman. it's like i called your second whore fat. if you don't like reading what i post, use a detour. or do you want to polish your biatching skills.

[Another day]

Forgot to mention, the man wears the pants, all the time. Infact he can wear 10 to 20 pairs. Just trying to show you what these kind of marriages are about. Ask yourself, if a man is brave enough to tell you there are two of you and get away with it without a scratch and manage to have both of you hanging off his palm, do you question his manhood or his perception of it? Remember though, he is usually capable of taking care of all his wives and children. That is the traditional idea of getting a village to respect a man with more than one wife.