Is open marriage the answer?

[Devine]

We all want to be happy in relationships, a large % of couples break up because of infidelity. Should we all just put it out there in the begining... there may be a possibility that it might happen, if it does I will let you know and don't be too surprised because we are being open n all.

A.M. I'm curious if this something that might work for you, knowing that you're ok with your man stepping out on you.

YES, SHE SAYS, "WE HAVE AN OPEN MARRIAGE."
After two divorces, Mo'Nique wed onetime high-school classmate Sidney Hicks, 39, in May 2006. "We have no secrets, we have no sneakiness," she says. "We never have to worry about, 'You deceived me.'" So what does "open" mean exactly? "The main question people have is, 'Can y'all sleep with other people?' Do we set out to do that? Of course not, I love my husband," she says. "But if that was to happen, would it be a deal breaker? Of course not." Says Hicks, who worked in corporate sales before becoming Mo'Nique's writing partner: "My love is for her, and while I have not been intimate with anyone else, if I did, it wouldn't take anything away from our relationship." And Mo'Nique? "Whether she has or not, that's not relevant," he adds.

[msema ukweli Kabisa]

Human beings are wired for jelousy and exclusivity.... so wow


or maybe we are imitating our closes apes, the bonobo

The scientific name for the Bonobo is Pan paniscus. Initial genetic studies have characterised their DNA as much as 98% (99.4 in one study) identical to that of Homo sapiens.[15

Bonobo - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

The sexual activity happens within the immediate family as well as outside it. Bonobos do not form permanent relationships with individual partners. They also do not seem to discriminate in their sexual behavior by sex or age, with the possible exception of abstaining from sexual intercourse between mothers and their adult sons; some observers believe these pairings are taboo. When Bonobos come upon a new food source or feeding ground, the increased excitement will usually lead to communal sexual activity, presumably decreasing tension and allowing for peaceful feeding.[24]

Bonobo males frequently engage in various forms of male-male genital behavior (frot).[25][26] In one form, two males hang from a tree limb face-to-face while "penis fencing".[27][28] Frot also may occur when two males rub their penises together while in face-to-face position. A special form of frot called "rump rubbing" occurs to express reconciliation between two males after a conflict, when they stand back-to-back and rub their scrotal sacs together. Takayoshi Kano observed similar practices among bonobos in the natural habitat.

Bonobo females also engage in female-female genital behavior, possibly to bond socially with each other, thus forming a female nucleus of Bonobo society. The bonding among females allows them to dominate Bonobo society—although male Bonobos are individually stronger, they cannot stand alone against a united group of females.[28] Adolescent females often leave their native community to join another community. Sexual bonding with other females establishes the new females as members of the group. This migration mixes the Bonobo gene pools, providing genetic diversity.

[Devine]

LOL now wouldn't that be nice. I wasn't calling for an all our orgy, just simple intercourse with s'one other than your significant other once in a while

And what's with all the male on male and female on female action . That's mucking the water even more. Maybe we should just stick with what we know...

[msema ukweli Kabisa]

Lol I don't get it too but wanted to see how our closest relatives have done it. They are as polygamous and sexually deviant more than human beings.

So what do you expect from Monique and her hubby.....

[Devine]

Originally Posted by msema ukweli Kabisa

So what do you expect from Monique and her hubby.....

I don't expect them to be wild animals lol. She's actually pretty intelligent. I watch her show, n today she was talking about letting the hubby be the man. Her hubby is excecutive producer of her show, so an assistant told her she couldn't say s'thing a certain way and she was all hand wagging, head shaking no way! Then her hubby walks up to her and says,
"Mami, I want you to say it this way"
And all she said way..."Yes Dadi" LOL

She's wild and crazy and funny but I was surprised that she would handle things like that.

[msema ukweli Kabisa]

Originally Posted by Devine

I don't expect them to be wild animals lol. She's actually pretty intelligent. I watch her show, n today she was talking about letting the hubby be the man. Her hubby is excecutive producer of her show, so an assistant told her she couldn't say s'thing a certain way and she was all hand wagging, head shaking no way! Then her hubby walks up to her and says,
"Mami, I want you to say it this way"
And all she said way..."Yes Dadi" LOL

She's wild and crazy and funny but I was surprised that she would handle things like that.

Oh is that monique the comedian.... Oh sorry I just thought it was another akata. By the way I love that woman

[al-zalzalah]

Originally Posted by msema ukweli Kabisa

Lol I don't get it too but wanted to see how our closest relatives have done it. They are as polygamous and sexually deviant more than human beings.

and apparently they also practice homosexuality in the wild. maajabu haya.
so how did you stumble upon this link? just have to ask....

Do we set out to do that? Of course not, I love my husband," she says. "But if that was to happen, would it be a deal breaker? Of course not." Says Hicks, who worked in corporate sales before becoming Mo'Nique's writing partner: "My love is for her, and while I have not been intimate with anyone else, if I did, it wouldn't take anything away from our relationship." And Mo'Nique? "Whether she has or not, that's not relevant," he adds.

btw, how is this different from the kawaida couple where one cheats, and then confesses and all is forgiven?
i also wonder how hicks can speak with such certainty about how he would act if he cheated on her. how does he know he would not fall in love with the other woman? it would be one thing if he was talking about sthg that'd already happened, lakini here he is prophesying.

[Jerry D]

Originally Posted by al-zalzalah

and apparently they also practice homosexuality in the wild. maajabu haya.

Homosexuality is more common in animals that in man.

Homosexual behavior in animals - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Sometimes I tend to think that man is too strict for himself thanks to religion.

Where else is "closed" marriage practiced in the animal kingdom? Cows don't do it, dogs don't do it, chicken don't do it, etc etc.

Sorry, I forgot that I am also religious.

[oteerooh]

well you have to realize monique lives a fast life,with her career she dont want him trying to change what she's used doing everyday.you cant teach an old dog new tricks bear with it ,the nyege will fade soon

[okiedokes]

Originally Posted by msema ukweli Kabisa

Oh is that monique the comedian.... Oh sorry I just thought it was another akata. By the way I love that woman

I was wondering if that's the Mo'nique she was talking about until I saw your post. WoW! She's so funny.

Is open marriage the answer? Hmm...not for me, but to each their own. When you invite 3rd parties into holy matrimony, I don't think any good comes from it. How "open" is open? Where does it stop?

On Keyshia Cole's show(The Way it is) her sister, Neffe had been married for 10yrs. During the course of the marriage, they did everything from threesomes, swinging, etc. Her husband ended up leaving her and the kids and moved in with her cousin. She admitted that deconsecrating her marriage(by having threesomes, etc) had led to the problems.