Sanaa and Frag nina swali linalo....

[Jalejo]

Originally Posted by Fraglante

I beg to differ. Any socially well adjusted person, male or female will have some level of emotional attachment with the person they have sex with. I know to men, sex is more automated than it is emotional.

But ask yourself this: why is it that some men vow to become players after heart break? Is it not to protect themselves from the emotional hurt they experienced from the heart break? Which means there were feelings involved.

Why is it that some men get so enraged (even to a point of physical violence) when they learn hat their spouse has cheated on them? Is it not because they feel emotionally violated? Meaning, there was an emotional bond developed by the physical intimacy.

If it was purely mechanical, it would be no big deal.

These men that sleep around and forget the people they slept with are the ones who am talking about- they are promiscuous emotionally handicapped men laden with baggage. So much that they cannot connect emotionally anymore. They **** and forget **** and forget….like robots.

You don’t forget your 1st sexual encounter. Why? Because then you were fresh, your heart was intact…you had no emotional baggage.

Ha! Frag,

first, ur statement that any socially wel adjusted man wil have emotional attachment to the woman he shags is not true. men are not like women period. a man can have a very beautiful wife that he loves and adores but just feel like ******** a gal for a change. the gal might be the maid, secretary, colleague or even the air hostess but its just physical and no emotions r involved. and its not even ati every 2 weeks he will shag her. no. its jus a one off thing and maybe after 3 months the man shags a different lady altogether. but the man will only be emotionally attached to his beautiful wife and not the shag mate, no matter how hot she might be.

its true some men vow to become playas after being heart broken, but its jus a small percentage of men who let women play around with their feelings. many playas r jus born playas and there is no broken heart anywhere in the story.

yes, some men become enraged to the point of geting violent but as u rightly put it, wen they find out that their 'spouse' has cheated on them. not their one night stand or mistress. if its my spouse cheating on me, ill be enraged though the level of anger differs between men, some will kill the spouse while others will kill themselves and others might not bother much. obvously your spouse is someone u have invested emotionally over the years whether ur a male or a female. but a one night stand or a colleague or mistress is someone u dont have feelings for, wen the scratch itches u just make a booty call and after about 3 hours ure done for like the next 3 months. no emotions here, jus pure raw sex.

nobody forgets their first sexual encounter be it a man or a woman. unless it was a lousy encounter that ud rather not recall. first encounters r always emotional coz its always tha first intimate feelings. pple soon mature into whoever they work out to be.

[Fraglante]

@Salutes, Jogich and Jalejo.

The three of you have collectively and independently made it very clear that a man will pick up a whore, a mboch, a miss independent etc (any lady basically) when ever the need arises, **** her and go home to cuddle his wife. This statement alone is a bright almost blindening neon light.

I mean, what does a man:
a)Picking up a whore
b)Cheating on his wife
c)Sleeping with an independent woman just so that good pucci doesn’t go to waste(as in just for the sake of it)
Say about such a man? It says one thing- he is not socially well adjusted. Plain and simple.

So YES there are an exceptional few men in this category. The three of you are quick to point this out and hey, I didn’t expect any different from you three.

[jasakwa]

Jogich wacha ku panic,it only gets better.Jungu kuu haikosi ukoko.

[Jalejo]

Originally Posted by Fraglante

@Salutes, Jogich and Jalejo.

The three of you have collectively and independently made it very clear that a man will pick up a whore, a mboch, a miss independent etc (any lady basically) when ever the need arises, **** her and go home to cuddle his wife. This statement alone is a bright almost blindening neon light.

I mean, what does a man:
a)Picking up a whore
b)Cheating on his wife
c)Sleeping with an independent woman just so that good pucci doesn’t go to waste(as in just for the sake of it)
Say about such a man? It says one thing- he is not socially well adjusted. Plain and simple.

So YES there are an exceptional few men in this category. The three of you are quick to point this out and hey, I didn’t expect any different from you three.

Frag,

dont take the high road here, u r conveniently choosing not to recognise the fact that the mboch, independent woman, shag mate etc is also as u say 'not socially well adjusted, plain and simple'. the knife cutts both ways and the shag mates also dont involve their emotions in these little booty calls.

these days women r known to play as hard as men and sleep around with their mechanics, drivers, house boys etc, so there is no use for u to lable men names and stay silent on ladies. kama wote ni fisi, wote ni fisi!!!

[olukhanya]

Originally Posted by jogich

nisumbua akili..smtime back you squeezes wrote smthing that i have bn tryin to get off my mind bila luck till imebidi niulizee...You two once wrote that if a young male jamaa have lots of sex during his early years as in ma 20's by the time he gets late 40's hata kuamsha baba kanush itakuwa shida..any truth in that????

Take ds as a very serious thread.

No it is not true, when you are young you are kinda hyper and experiment alot with girls thus the libido but when you settle in marriage you become contented and sex is no longer as appealing as it used to be. once in a while in your marriage life you **** as you used when you were young, but to keep you fire burning you must have a mistress here and there who ****s with abandon, like there is no tomorrow this will keep your imaginations high when you are with your wife who most of the time is tired anyway.

[Fraglante]

Originally Posted by Jalejo

Frag,

dont take the high road here, u r conveniently choosing not to recognise the fact that the mboch, independent woman, shag mate etc is also as u say 'not socially well adjusted, plain and simple'. the knife cutts both ways and the shag mates also dont involve their emotions in these little booty calls.

these days women r known to play as hard as men and sleep around with their mechanics, drivers, house boys etc, so there is no use for u to lable men names and stay silent on ladies. kama wote ni fisi, wote ni fisi!!!

No one said women are saints but its necessary for me to ‘take the high road’ here in order to stay relevant.

If I start talking about women, then I will be deviating from the topic at hand. Jogich asked about men, I answered him directly. Am sure people have something to say about women too but that’s for another thread, another question, another day.

Keep focus and remember that shifting/apportioning blame on the opposite sex doesn’t absolve the men of the issues at hand.

[jogich]

Originally Posted by jasakwa

Jogich wacha ku panic,it only gets better.Jungu kuu haikosi ukoko.

Yeah seriously i had panicked..juzi juzi tu i had lungula n in the middle of it got really bored.(not that the sex was bad)..and actually cldn't get my baba kanush going...very rare of me.so then i remember what frag n sanaa had said n i got really really worried like kweni yangu imeanza mapema aje.

[Jalejo]

Originally Posted by Fraglante

No one said women are saints but its necessary for me to ‘take the high road’ here in order to stay relevant.

If I start talking about women, then I will be deviating from the topic at hand. Jogich asked about men, I answered him directly. Am sure people have something to say about women too but that’s for another thread, another question, another day.

Keep focus and remember that shifting/apportioning blame on the opposite sex doesn’t absolve the men of the issues at hand.

Thats all ive EVER wanted to see u write.

[jogich]

Originally Posted by Fraglante

@Salutes, Jogich and Jalejo.

- he is not socially well adjusted. Plain and simple.

So YES there are an exceptional few men in this category. The three of you are quick to point this out and hey, I didn’t expect any different from you three.

Thats so so so evil on you to say smthing like that...lemmi tell you its not always a woman's fault that a jamaa's go n lungula outside..the woman could be all that we guy want..as in she has all the qualities dat makes us happy---for lungularin outside its just happens-men find themselves doing it.

Originally Posted by olukhanya

No it is not true, when you are young you are kinda hyper and experiment alot with girls thus the libido but when you settle in marriage you become contented and sex is no longer as appealing as it used to be. once in a while in your marriage life you **** as you used when you were young, but to keep you fire burning you must have a mistress here and there who ****s with abandon, like there is no tomorrow this will keep your imaginations high when you are with your wife who most of the time is tired anyway.

...Now that has made me feel content..gracias.

[didier]

jalejo and co..nowadays ladies can act more like dudes..with no feelings,now since jogich on your fcbook you have just admitted to watchin tormenta en el paraiso aka storm over paradise soap opera..wat can you say about karina rosenborg??..doesn't she diff btn passion and gold digging and love???