[staple]

I have been a worried man since the election results were declared and the tension heightened into ugly scenes. I have wondered if the way I was brought up made me non-committal or just a plain stupid guy. I have never felt hatred for any tribe or anyone based on his/her tribe ever since I started socialising (at work or in other fora). Most of the girls I have dated have been Kiuks and a few from other tribes - I being a Jeng and we had wonderful time together. My last girl left me two months back and this reminded me of what a close friend told me. He said, Kiuk girls will date you until they see you getting serious, then they will drop you like hot potato without notice. She never gave me any reason but I was somehow prepared that it was inevitable. Other girls from other tribes are not so prejudiced, I am told. Can inter-marriages help to avert situations like we are currently going through? I get confused.

[fiery_preacher]

I believe it was in a massive dimension yes it would have helped to difuse the tension,but unfrotunately the inter tribe marriages still form a small percentage.Just start with your village/estate/gishagi and compare the odds.

[cizek]

Originally Posted by staple

I have been a worried man since the election results were declared and the tension heightened into ugly scenes. I have wondered if the way I was brought up made me non-committal or just a plain stupid guy. I have never felt hatred for any tribe or anyone based on his/her tribe ever since I started socialising (at work or in other fora). Most of the girls I have dated have been Kiuks and a few from other tribes - I being a Jeng and we had wonderful time together. My last girl left me two months back and this reminded me of what a close friend told me. He said, Kiuk girls will date you until they see you getting serious, then they will drop you like hot potato without notice. She never gave me any reason but I was somehow prepared that it was inevitable. Other girls from other tribes are not so prejudiced, I am told. Can inter-marriages help to avert situations like we are currently going through? I get confused.

dont this so. in any case i think itll actually create more division. theres more tension now, and i can imagine, esp for those families who were directly or indirectly affected, the recent tribal divisions have actually made the rift even worse. for those of us who never used to really judge a guy by his roots now tend to think.......hmmmm where is he from? and what would my family think of me and him? it was there before, but back then, there wasnt a justifiable reason. really sad societal pressure.

just my thots

[sdolphin]

Originally Posted by staple

I have been a worried man since the election results were declared and the tension heightened into ugly scenes. I have wondered if the way I was brought up made me non-committal or just a plain stupid guy. I have never felt hatred for any tribe or anyone based on his/her tribe ever since I started socialising (at work or in other fora). Most of the girls I have dated have been Kiuks and a few from other tribes - I being a Jeng and we had wonderful time together. My last girl left me two months back and this reminded me of what a close friend told me. He said, Kiuk girls will date you until they see you getting serious, then they will drop you like hot potato without notice. She never gave me any reason but I was somehow prepared that it was inevitable. Other girls from other tribes are not so prejudiced, I am told. Can inter-marriages help to avert situations like we are currently going through? I get confused.

She didn't leave because she is a Kiuk, its because things didn't work out. Otherwise you'd be married to the first non-Kiuk you ever dated. Ama did they not leave? Did they die?

[cizek]

Originally Posted by sdolphin

She didn't leave because she is a Kiuk, its because things didn't work out. Otherwise you'd be married to the first non-Kiuk you ever dated. Ama did they not leave? Did they die?

lol. true.