[Mswahili]

Thanks mashada crew. This is a complicated issue that I even cannot deal with . I feel for my girl. Well all advise taken in, I dont know how these two can work on their visitations with the step father there. Baba wa kambo being old school, he does not see what the big issue is of removing the biological father from the picture. He thinks that since he is marrying the squeeze, the baby automatically takes his name and therefore is his child. What he does not like is the idea of his "wife to be" actually making an effort to be there for the baby daddy and baby daddy actually caring for the squeeze in a very wierd fashion. His concern is that there might still be some mapenzi between them even though they are not together and second of all he does not see the need of the toto having him and the other jamaa in the picture. In other words they are too friendly even though not physically involved but he feels that mentally and emotionally this two have unresolved issues which he wants to avoid in the future. Anasema thats his family right now and he is the one supporting them . Well what can I say is it being immature or is it being too old school?
Once again thanks mashada crew at least different options have been brought to the table and I believe those are good topics the two of them need to discuss before embarking on the life journey as a family. seeing the complications I dont think they should even get married until they come to common ground au vipi mashada? Sincerly am greatful to y'all.

I do apologize for those who could not understand my language...POLENI wananchi.

[Wakamau]

Mswahili hiyo slag is to hot bwana, 4 those who can't feel u wanaweza step lakini. Come to think about it i know a jama who is in a similar "malaria" This guys is married and the babe is married. The wifi of the dude doesn't know of the ka-baby and the ka-hazzy of the chile doesn't know that ka-baby is not his, now u talk of drama.:o

[Kanice]

Wakamau...... talk about getting into a mix. Hiyo ni deadly. I'm not sure weather to laugh out aloud or pray for them. }>



Don't ever be afraid to try to make things better you might be surprised at the results

[foxxy]

My uncle married and African American and she had a kid from some other guy. I'm sure that it probably was a little difficult in the beginning and it may have taken time for them to adjust to the situation. The boy sees his dad and my uncle's wife even tals to the BIO dad's current wife. They are cool like that. I know that these situations can work because they are heading for their 16th aniiversary pretty soon.