[Toti]

Maybe this has been posted before so please pardon me if it has.My question is,how does one overcome the lonely life in the States here without succumbing to alcohol?The state I am at,there are tons of Kenyans but all we do whenever we get together is to get drunk.Now that is becomming old.What else is there out there to do?
Toti

[intelligent_beauty]

Toti,here is my advice.

1. Dump those Kenyan friends. -- Do not feel obligated to be friends with people simply because they are Kenyan. Remember that you get lonely only when you are alone and thus if you feel lonely in the company of these "friends," their friendship isn't fulfilling your emotional needs. It sounds harsh but the only solution is to dump them and "hook up" with people whom you truly connect.

2. Be Brave -- Try everything at least twice. Even by yourself. Kenyans shy away from trying many activities by labelling them "jungu" or "not a kenyan thing to do." Don't let that dull your resolve.

3. Go Skiing.

Your happiness is in your own hands. Good luck.

[roma]

Have you tried joining a health club? You will atleast meet more people there. Also try to find out what passions your pals may have apart from temboing,or find a part-time job to occupy your weekends. All in all you have to find something that you would enjoy doing or participating in and also get positive results. Just remember it only gets as lonely as you want it to be.

[viloko]

Join Alcoholics Anonymous!

[spoony]

well as pple say stay away for those kenyans! mix with other races that have different hobbies eg opera , threatre, pain shootin, days out eg sea sides historical sites .etc theres more to life then alcohol ,drugs sex and rockin roll lol! -spoony

[Mkosa_Kabila]

LOL @Viloko, I somewhat agree with I_B, you don't have to always hang around Kenyan people lakini don't dump them! I think meeting people from other cultures can be extremely rewarding too. You won't believe how much Kenyans have in common with people from other countries especially 'third world' (for lack of a better term to use). I love to dance so I hang out sana with Latinos and other Africans, lakini beware of Zambians who drink as much as Kenyans if not more!

Mkosa kabila ni mtumwa :)

[waweru]

You can be Alone without being Lonely.

Alcohol is very deadly and can easily destroy your life. Avoid such people and find more positive people to interact with.

[Vicki]

Yeah, go skiing, but dont try to look at the time when going downhill. It will be too late to duck the tree. Trust me.

[stupak]

Buy a big screen TV!

[Shanika]

Try henging around other people like the people that you go to school with if you do, and workmates(although do not get so close to workmates) and see if that would help. It is just peer pleasure and can be cured by a little change in life.
Good luck.