[Galtoto]

Ya'll mashadites gotta help esp the ladies out there. I donno if I have a problem coz i've never felt that dazzling feeling or rather what pple call stima in the Jamaaz i've been seeing since way back till now. Yes they are great pple, i love their company but haven't met a man who's actually turned me on! Am 24 now, Is it normal? should i keep waiting for Mr. Right or do you think I have a major problem since no manno has aroused my feelings to that capacity.. (u know what i mean eh?)Y'all been thru this Ama those vybes are just fairy tails in novels & movies? Holla @ me!

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Nipe...nikupe

[Ying Yang]

You might be a lesbian, have you really thought about that? Explore your options and find out if women will spark that stima you are looking for. Or maybe you just haven't met the right mano.......possiblities are endless.

[Galtoto]

>You might be a lesbian, have you really
>thought about that? Explore your options
>and find out if women will spark that
>stima you are looking for. Or maybe you
>just haven't met the right
>mano.......possiblities are endless.

What u mean gal? I ain't no lesbian...been raised proper N longing for a real man! Don't wonna suck some *****!

Nipe...nikupe

[Mystique]

For starters, try and post ur question in 'Relationships' u might get a better response. Secondly, today's man is looking for an all round woman and am not talking about physique!. Personality and looks. It doesn't help if u've got J-Lo's body na sura kama ya nugu. Try new tricks and maybe you can ignite the fire. I would recommend the 'Kama Sutra' book.

Men Like a woman who seems to know what they are doing(very unlike them who twitch our nipples like they are trying to tune a radio station in a hilly area).

Thirdly, Mr Right too has his own criteria for Mrs. Right and if u can't match them up u will never find Mr. Right.

Common sense will prevail but not all sense is common

[Shinashki]

Mystique Lmao! sura kama ya nugu lol lol lol mazee u made ma day.

pengine the girl has legs of Turkana ( Nyengese).








The choices we make dictates the kinda life we lead

[muombaji]

galtoto keep hope alive there is someone out there for u!

the journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step
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[Kyalo]

Maybe you have hormonal issues; too much testosterone will mask you "stima". Have you tried girls? You can see a Doctor if you still want a man. They can do implants to supress the testo or boost your estrogens. Seriously.

[kerubo]

In addition to Kyalo's and I stand corrected on this:

You could be mentally experiencing Sexual dysfunction - a lack of interest or fear of or hostility towards sexual intercourse. Usually, sexual dysfunction is caused by psychological factors, although physical causes must be ruled out. Counseling by a specialist may be recommended

Common causes of psychological sexual psychological problems:
-unskilled or uncaring partner
-communication problems with partner
-anxiety, depression, fear of pregnancy, and feelings of guilt and shame about sex often play a part in sexual dysfunction
-fear of pain, infection, or being pregnant
-a gynecological disease
-having deep-seated psychological problems
-prior history of sexual abuse

What to expect :
A history will be obtained and a psychological and physical examination performed. Counseling by a specialist may be recommended. Medical history questions may include questions about relationships, attitudes towards sex, physical symptoms that may be present at the same time, and many others while physical examination may include a pelvic examinations.


NOTHING IN LIFE IS TO BE FEARED. IT IS ONLY TO BE UNDERSTOOD.

[Wakili]

From your post I get the following impressions:

(a) You are placing the entire burden of arousal soley on the man

(b) You have a slightly 'Mills and Boonish" notion of arousal

(c) You have low libido

These may not be the case but it is what comes across and thus I shall offer my opinion based on my understanding of your post.

With regards to (a) while there are those men who just have the ability to turn you on simply by existing, it is usually not that simple. You also have to turn yourself on. Use your imagination, think of sexy thoughts. Next time you are going out on a date try this: spend the whole day focusing on things that turn you on, wear sexy lingerie. During the date keep this up, flirt with your date. Try and turn him on. Contribute to his arousal and hopefully he will contribute to yours.

As for (b, not every moment of arousal is as intense as the movies or books will have us believe. Sometimes it is subtle and sometimes all you want to do is just rip the man's clothes off. If you keep on expecting the latter you may end up ignoring those subtle ones.

Lastly (c), everybody at one stage in their life suffers from low sex drive. It could be caused by a number of things, stress, diet, The Pill, emotional trauma. Usually it is just a phase and soon passes. However if you feel that there is a deeper problem underlying it, or that this has been going on for too long then perhaps you may need to seel help?

Excuse the typos

I am too blessed to be stressed

[Kimamaa]

Galtoto,

Those feelings are real! don't let nobody tell you otherwise, go get him taigaress! there is nothing compared to those deep thrusts....eh.. you know what I mean? te..hehe..!