[mwananchi_]

Pam,
-Are you now ready to sleep with this guy?
-Does he still think he's gonna hurt you if you get involved?
-Do you want to move on?
-Do you see something working out between you two?

[sowhat]

Pam,
#1.You sound like you have doubts in your mind! women have been blessed with a 6th sense make use of it!
#2. Whenever you start making excuses for a guy to avoid getting hurt..RUN!..as far as the map goes!
LAST OPTION
#3. just f*** him and find out(OOPS!)



Keepin' it real

[kamua]

it's like dis. You give up the choochie and then you'll know if its for real..FULL STOP!

[shidanyingi]

I am assuming that you are seeking an opinion on this guy whether he is into marriage relationship with you.

If that is true, then the answer is NO. He stayed with you for a while to build the trust and give you chance to do your ground work properly on him and decide to accept him or not. Notice he openly but gently told you that sex is a deal but not a big one?. Later, he told you very clearly not to trust what is between the two of you. Very sad but this guy is not yours any more!

In my opinion, he might have been a good material for you if you were not stiff. However, it is very tough for both men and women to know who is exploring you for future relationship or just into getting good part of you.

How to fix this:

Sounds you like the man and still in communication level with him. One quick test is to invite him over for a night and be plane with him. Tell him that based on the length of time that you have known him, you feel that he may be a good candidate for your future mate. Realize that this lets him know that you are not desperate but passes the information to him that he is important to you. Tell him to think about the answer and let you know at his convenience. The response will set you free.

[playa]

Pam34, i'll tell you what, he is for real! First he didn't wonna hurt you after you told him how you felt about sex. Having wanted to sleep with you is just another way of expressing love, practically in this case. The fact that he is still keepin it real with you after you denied him the chance proves it all. Think about it this way, he would have most probably had the chance of getting his groove on with some other gal but he still came back your way, thats tight right there, gal, he is for reall!

[Dearly]

ok gal... go with your instinct.. but i must say if he ended your relationship previously becoz of sex then he aint worth it and may probably be looking to "hit" it... you say you have a connection with him.. do you love him.. do you wanna be with him... in the end the choice is yours.. just think real hard about it.. but if he ended your relationship becoz of sex.. coz you werent ready..and then just used an excuse to say he didnt wanna hurt you then he aint for real and in that case move on becoz if he is looking to get sex he probably would leave after he gets what he wants.. its a toughie.. good luck gal.

[sarin]

I won't tell you to trust your instincts coz many times were don't even know how to gauge our own instincts. Leave instincts for the beasts. Look gal if you don't wanna sleep with the guy then don't. Period. Most men know that sex is a big issue for gals and they are gonna be those gals that give it out easily and those that don't. So meeeting someone who don't shouldn't be a shocker to any man. If a man finds one that don't wanna give it out he should understand and either stay with her and respect her, OR move on to one that gives it out.
Gal if you have a value in not having sex then stand by your values and don't shed it just to please anyone. I am giving you my opinion and advice just as I would my young sister.
Don't sleep with him to find out if he is for real. You are he one that will look yaself infront of the mirror everyday and ask yaself if you are happy with the way you are doing things, so think about it.
peace!



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[hottie_gal]

mmm............by moving on she meant
to get rid of him and give a chance to
someone else or look for some other dude
i mean to forget about him u kno'.
but anyways mercedesk i cant say
anything about yah prob' just start moving
on noooowwww and if he was really into you
he will be a lil' jelous and come back to u
and if he doesn't then just kno' that he was
not for real maybe he was just using u,
u kno' what i mean anyways thats maendeleo
fullstop(period).

[mimigirl]

All the advice being offered in this room is bogus! Goodness! Values instilled from young age are being neglected. Listen to me girl... Sarin sad it all... I dont know what made you not go to bed with the man inthe first place... whatever the reason, please dont go against it now. Going to bed with someone will not tell you anything about the jamaaz feelings, ati whether he is for real or not, it will only tell you how good he is in the sack... and even if he is good, you wont live with him in your bed for the rest of your life making love from daybreak to sunset and sunset to daybreak... youwill have to take a break and live with the man (his character).

The fact that he took a break after you refused him and has come back is actually something that should tell you something... that jamaa is for real. He respects you.

Hey, I have more to say on this but maybe you should contact me on tweetie2002@email.com and we can get on... God bless!

[msemakweli]

Kamua....what is the big idea?????
i would politelly u use ur head for something other than to hang ur hat on!!
Now girl... i know that u know how u feel when somethings for real/right...and until ur feeling it for sure then HE ain't gonna get none!!
any clearer and u'll go blind!

so make up ur mind!;-)