[Tripple Seven]

Nope! Just be loaded as a man but that shouldnt be a solution to all probs. Dont be broke though..never.

[carolecarole]

Originally Posted by Tripple Seven

I think that is being over-ambitious.

well,that's the truth of the matter.
Why hook up with a broke jamaa,when yu can find a not soo broke one.
Especially if yu also have yur own moneys.
Combine his n yours n live well.A broke one will make yu poorer.
So the richer guy steals the show.

[Tripple Seven]

Originally Posted by carolecarole

well,that's the truth of the matter.
Why hook up with a broke jamaa,when yu can find a not soo broke one.
Especially if yu also have yur own moneys.
Combine his n yours n live well.A broke one will make yu poorer.
So the richer guy steals the show.

Carole there will be no day moneys will ever be combined for any thing better. A man's money is his n his lady. A lady's money is hers. Whereas it may help when the guy is not so broke, it never helps if he is broke, regardless of the state of the lady's bank info...

[okiedokes]

Originally Posted by Tripple Seven

Carole there will be no day moneys will ever be combined for any thing better. A man's money is his n his lady. A lady's money is hers. Whereas it may help when the guy is not so broke, it never helps if he is broke, regardless of the state of the lady's bank info...

lol...I was thinking the same thing. The only difference it makes having a working wife is that she doesn't depend on her man's money entirely but as her man you still are responsible to clothe and feed her. Any excesses(extra purses, bags, shoes, etc) she wants may now come from her pocket.
As for a woman's money, her money is hers only. She may tap into her resources when times are hard but not for long. It is advisable as a woman to have a secret savings account and never let your man know of it or how much is in it. If he does, he'll start making plans with your money in mind. Also, if he needs a loan he'll continue to bug you since he knows you have it.

[maziwa]

Originally Posted by carolecarole

well,that's the truth of the matter.
Why hook up with a broke jamaa,when yu can find a not soo broke one.
Especially if yu also have yur own moneys.
Combine his n yours n live well.A broke one will make yu poorer.
So the richer guy steals the show.

n you wonder why he cheated on you. if he knows how to make money am damned sure he knows that women love his money and he knows where and how to get them.

[okiedokes]

Originally Posted by maziwa

n you wonder why he cheated on you. if he knows how to make money am damned sure he knows that women love his money and he knows where and how to get them.

Are you saying the broke guys are faithful? I don't think so either. lmao!
I don't think anyone can control whether or not their partner cheats. It's a choice and with each choice we make, depending on which way it goes there are consequences.
As a woman, I will say give your man a choice, don't make the decision for him b/c he will rebel against it. Let him know the choice to cheat or not to cheat is his BUT, he needs to know where you stand on the issue and the consequences of such actions. It cuts both ways too.

[infinitepyro]

Haha! Look at offended women bristling in self righteous indignation. Question, to the pissed ones, would you pick a hot broke ass nigga as a boyfie over a not so good lookin filthy rich negro?

[kiptur]

men!!!!!!!!

go for only rich ladies, say no to broke ladies,

It's tit for tat! though richness is relative,

go for relatively rich lady,relative to yourself,

and for all the ladies that prioritize money above everything else,

you will not form good wives, but good workers and punching bags,

always bear in your minds,that you will not be the only lady to your man,

because there will be plenty of other ladies coming for your man's money,

[carolecarole]

Originally Posted by Tripple Seven

Carole there will be no day moneys will ever be combined for any thing better. A man's money is his n his lady. A lady's money is hers. Whereas it may help when the guy is not so broke, it never helps if he is broke, regardless of the state of the lady's bank info...

well,pple do things differently.
as a lady if I feel that the investments should b ours,
then I should chip in too.

Originally Posted by okiedokes

lol...I was thinking the same thing. The only difference it makes having a working wife is that she doesn't depend on her man's money entirely but as her man you still are responsible to clothe and feed her. Any excesses(extra purses, bags, shoes, etc) she wants may now come from her pocket.
As for a woman's money, her money is hers only. She may tap into her resources when times are hard but not for long. It is advisable as a woman to have a secret savings account and never let your man know of it or how much is in it. If he does, he'll start making plans with your money in mind. Also, if he needs a loan he'll continue to bug you since he knows you have it.

well,Oki,assuming I have a lot of money,would it b fair for me to say ma money is mine n spend it anyway I wish.
Eg.Buy the biggest car in the market n keep calling it my car????

Originally Posted by maziwa

n you wonder why he cheated on you. if he knows how to make money am damned sure he knows that women love his money and he knows where and how to get them.

all men cheat.
whether broke or not.
even shamba boys still get wifeys kando.

Originally Posted by okiedokes

Are you saying the broke guys are faithful? I don't think so either. lmao!
I don't think anyone can control whether or not their partner cheats. It's a choice and with each choice we make, depending on which way it goes there are consequences.
As a woman, I will say give your man a choice, don't make the decision for him b/c he will rebel against it. Let him know the choice to cheat or not to cheat is his BUT, he needs to know where you stand on the issue and the consequences of such actions. It cuts both ways too.

Originally Posted by kiptur

men!!!!!!!!

go for only rich ladies, say no to broke ladies,

It's tit for tat! though richness is relative,

go for relatively rich lady,relative to yourself,

and for all the ladies that prioritize money above everything else,

you will not form good wives, but good workers and punching bags,

always bear in your minds,that you will not be the only lady to your man,because there will be plenty of other ladies coming for your man's money,

well,let's just say all men cheat,so the sooner women hook themselves up with the richer ones the better.

[okiedokes]

Originally Posted by infinitepyro

Haha! Look at offended women bristling in self righteous indignation. Question, to the pissed ones, would you pick a hot broke ass nigga as a boyfie over a not so good lookin filthy rich negro?

I don't know who you are referring to as "pissed ones" but its besides the point.
To answer your question, there are more options than the 2 you listed above in the REAL WORLD.

So based on the real world, here are a woman's options:
1.good looking filty rich man or
2. not so good looking but filthy rich or
3. good looking and broke
4.not so good looking and broke

in addition to the ones you listed above.

So it depends but if you find yourself among options 3 and 4, I'm afraid you've got a lot of praying to do. lmao!

@carolecarole....what I said is what I've seen all too often. If you are richer than the man, there is only so much you can do with your money in terms of responsibilities(bills, food, rent, etc). It's a fine to walk between taking charge of bills and making sure he doesn't feel emasculated or like he has lost his role in your life(gotta pet that fragile ego..lol). Because you earn much more he will secretly expect you to take on more responsiblities but won't say it openly so as not to look dependent on you. If you don't get the cue then what now?

It doesn't matter how much more a woman makes than her man, as a man if you allow your woman to take on more responsibilities(rent, bills,food, tuition) also expect her to want much more say on what goes. It is an inate behavior in most women. When she gets fed up of paying bills, dealing with your shortcomings, and your lazy bum that just provides s.ex at 11pm daily be ready to hear about all she does for you each time there is a fight.

But if a man is cool with that, hey, who am I to say otherwise? lmao!

Yes, all men cheat! In fact an elderly african woman once told me that what to do is marry, get the number of kids you want as fast as you can, then forget about intimacy with the man b/c by this time he doesn't even care about you. This is to protect yourself from any diseases he may bring back with him and any expectations you may have. If he doesn't respect you enough to be discrete, and you can afford life on your own, get out. I was pleasantly surprised, considering she is old school.