[mo-uk]

How to be a good wife...

1. Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal - on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him, and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.


2. Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little flirty and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.


3. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.


4. Prepare the children: Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces if they are small, comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.


5. Minimize the noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.


6. Some Don'ts: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day.


7. Make him comfortable: Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.


8. Listen to him: You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.


9. Make the evening his: Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment; instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.


10. The goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can relax.

A great formula for a successful marriage

[Busy]

Originally Posted by MjM

Me i think this PB from wherever has raised vry strong issues.Jokes a side i agree with him on areas like her woman waking up early,preparing of supper but not only supper but also all the meals.and ladies pls be careful abt househelps.When they prepare a taste meal for your hubby she is on her way to becoming yr co-wifey.

my broda, it is not "delicious meals" that makes a hubby get attracted to a househelp, there are so many things my dear, it also depends with how they carry themselves around. si kazi mzeiya.

@poster, all the best in your search, ukiget please nishtue

[Rehema M.]

Poster Boy, those are pretty reasonable wishes but they sound more of absolutes than polite loving expectations. You can't be too extreme even with the simple duties, one has to make allowances every now and then (shift the responsibilities baton) unless your wife is a full time house wife. (oh and lose the attitude )

Sometimes I think that some men will never grow up, after 25 plus years of living with their parents and being taken care of by their mother, they marry and expect the wife to continue from where the mother left off.

[m kenya]

Originally Posted by Rehema M.

Poster Boy, those are pretty reasonable wishes but they sound more of absolutes than polite loving expectations. You can't be too extreme even with the simple duties, one has to make allowances every now and then (shift the responsibilities baton) unless your wife is a full time house wife. (oh and lose the attitude )

Sometimes I think that some men will never grow up, after 25 plus years of living with their parents and being taken care of by their mother, they marry and expect the wife to continue from where the mother left off.

There is nothing like men growing up.

Women are basically lazy and complain about being given the slightest responsibility that would make a man comfortable.

And if for 25years, what my mum and my dad did worked. Why would i go on a totally new way of life that i have to start from scratch.

In any case my mum will have to veto you when i take you home, and she will make sure she drums it into you that her son needs to have his breakfast made and all that shizzo......na atakuangalia na zile macho za dare you.

Honestly tho...i think 96% of women are plain lazy, hate responsibility or being held accountable and want to just be free birds

[m kenya]

In any case my mum will have to veto you when i take you home, and she will make sure she drums it into you that her son needs to have his breakfast made and all that shizzo

For the first 25 visits to my parents home, i will just need to ensure my mom is around so that you can join her in the kitchen, as me and my dad catch up in the sitting room. utapeel viazi, osha, sijui wot else..na kama umekuwa unaninyima all these...i will just text my loving mum...

who will make you prepare chapati for 56 people. Na kama hutaki ukwende..
hhehehehe!

[Rehema M.]

Originally Posted by m kenya

Honestly tho...i think 96% of women are plain lazy, hate responsibility or being held accountable and want to just be free birds

You have a worms eye view of the world . 96% of the women you have encountered only make an atomically minute (and prolly insignificant) share of the worlds entire female population. We can't accurately make any sound conclusions on your findings.

[m kenya]

Originally Posted by Rehema M.

You have a worms eye view of the world . 96% of the women you have encountered only make an atomically minute (and prolly insignificant) share of the worlds entire female population. We can't accurately make any sound conclusions on your findings.

You know what am sayin.

jus trying to divert attention to issues raised by bringing book-worm responses about reseach and yada yada.....

[grip_daddy]

Originally Posted by Rehema M.

You have a worms eye view of the world . 96% of the women you have encountered only make an atomically minute (and prolly insignificant) share of the worlds entire female population. We can't accurately make any sound conclusions on your findings.

Steadman Press will need a sample size of about 2000 from a population of over 10 million. World wide based researchers, most of the times, quote sample sizes of less than 800.

Sorry but his findings could be viewed as significantly correct.

[okiedokes]

Conditions, demands, commands, obligations, rules etc etc etc...truth is there is no one who can fulfil all those. Something's gotta give and you will need to compromise and there'll always be a trade off. PERIOD! But my very best wishes finding that woman who will adhere to all that though.

[ciceraw]

Originally Posted by Poster boy From Hell

Call me old Fashioned ..but this are Conditions that My Future wife will have to meet with out failure

a)When i am working early ..she has to wake up at the same time as i do..She has to see me off! irrespective of time or how tired she ..

b) My laundry has to be done! she does not have to do it her self but someway it has to be done.. If she needs a house help ..fine i will gladly help her out to get one.. and will comfortably pay the hose help.. but she has to make sure everytthing is done ironed and she should tell me in less than a minute where my black tie is and other issues..


c) Cleaning the house ,utensils is her responsibility...dont care how it done but done..

d) Supper has to have her personal touch...I am not comfortable eating food that she played no role when it was being made...she can not leaving everythng to the House help.. i am not asking for much but...

e) everything else i can assist....

This are my conditions...

It is not "this are my conditions" but these are..."This" is used to reference singular objects. You listed 5 conditions and therefore the article should have been these. This is (one condition)...these are...(multiple conditions)