My parents don't approve the person I want to marry

[Mjasa]

LOVE MAY BE BLIND... BUT PARENTS AREN'T!
I am faced with a hectic situation that has brought me ulcers and my daily meal nowadays is fresh milk. firstly I do not know what to do since I fell in Love with a girl who isn't from my tribe. I do not find their dissaproval to be valid and I vowed to make things work even without their blessing. Secondly, the other major problem is that she is a single mother of a son aged 3 years. How can one convience my parents that I am madly in love with this woman. Coz I do care of her and the child and I hope it will remain that way forever.
Lastly the other trouble is the lady is older than me by one year. My parents are crying foul play over the age thing.
What do one do when you are so much in love with someone that your parents can't stand?

[nefertiti]

Pole sana Mjasa. I imagine you are going thru hell. Its hard for anybody to be put in a position to chose btw parents and life partner;two parties you love.
I think that you should fight for her. Perhaps if your parents had been against her because of some great faults in her personality,then you might be wise to listen.But a different tribe and a one year age diff are not grave strikes against you two.You can work around tribal differences. The one yr difference is nothing. I would suggest that you fight for her,though i know that it will definately not be easy. But hey,its love.Count yourself lucky that you didn't just settle for any woman just because she came from your tribe and was younger only to discover that you are miserable or bored. And kudos to you for loving and accepting her son.Not many men are as good or noble.

[Kangeta]

Put down the milk and do what YOU want to do.

I assume you are the first son in your family? Parents make a fuss when its the first son, nothing unusual there.

The choice here is simple. Marry for yourself, or for your parents.

Its your call bro!

[muombaji]

yap just marry for yourself not your parents. i support the above. it will take time for your parents to accept anyone you marry. LOVE ALWAYS FINDS A WAY!!

[lale]

stand up and fight like a man,dude!!!!...if thats the woman u've chosen to spend the rest of u're life with....so be it...and u're paros will just have to get used to it!!!!!make that clear to them!!!!!....good luck!

[isso]

hey!

Pole for your situation. My two cents...

If you are sure this is what you want, you should make your parents know that you are not asking for their permission, but perhaps their blessing....A one year age difference and a son from another relationship are not justifiable reasons to demonize anyone and bottom line is that you're parents are not going to live with her...They're probably worried about what the neighbours and Pastor Okumu at the local church will say....Just do your thing and cut down on the milk....Your folks will have to style up sometime.

[Dearly]

parents can be difficult but they do at some point come around... if you are sure this is what you want and this is your one true love... fight for it.. dont give it up and just let your paroz know the love that you two share and in time theyll see it too, i know its hard but dont give up.. dont stress too much about it either enough to get you sick.. ..... Good luck..

[Matumbo]

hi dude your parents will get over it once you are married . They probaby just need to see the picture of you and her happy together , then they will be cool, trust me .
Best of luck.
matush

[Vicki]

If your're really sure, really really sure its what you want, go ahead and marry the woman. Not to sound rude to your parents but the marriage will be btwn you and her minus them. A marriage partner is out of a personal decision not you and your clan. What's the worst that could happen anyway if you married her?? Loving might be a mistake but its worth making. Its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. You might face misunderstandings arising from cultural differences but hey, who said marriage is a bed of roses??? The real challenge, is how you deal with and overcome them. I wish you luck dude!!

[BABY G]

MAZIWA YA NYAYO?
YOU BETTER DRINK IT NOW B4 ELECTIONS ,
LAST,LEAVE SOME FOR THE 3 YEAR OLD