Should Kenyan men cry?

[floss]

A man can cry in front of me, I dont mind (in fact I'm sure he would need consoling, thats why he would be crying in front of me in the first place).

BUT ---

It should not be a common thing, because then those tears loose meaning. Kinda like crying wolf you know...makes you wonder...

btw mtt - traditionally kenyan men were hard pressed to cry. The e.gs you gave were American, where the culture is diff. and men are encouraged to get in touch with their feminine side. And if you are asking about kenyan men now I guess it all hinges on where the guy is and what the prevailing 'culture' is.

[honeygal]

hmmmmmmm

[MercedesK]

I still remember the first time I ever saw my dad cry, it was at his brother's funeral. I was so touched and it got me closer to him. That image of the iron-man who was non-empathetic totally disappeared and after that I felt more comfortable talking to him, it kinda got us closer. Similarly the first time I ever saw my mum cry was at her mother's funeral and damn I was heartbroken but got over it.

I think people should be able to express themselves without exaggerating it. I have seen men and women who cry over nothing and it is more annoying than anything. Dont cry to get attention otherwise you will become a cry-wolf.

[Vicki]

Crying is brings intense emotional healing to the soul which, in my opinion, doesnt know gender. Man or woman it doesnt matter. But for a man the cultural issue may come up and as long as its not ovyo ovyo, is all good. Sometimes its good to let it all out and who better to give you a shoulder than the woman you love, your soul-mate??????
I think a man who would cry is not showing signs of being a weakling, he's merely being human.

[Kangeta]

MTT!...er I mean Mbugua!

As am sure you are aware, times have changed, and the notion of being manly and what not has become wethered and now appears overrated every time its looked at through life's rear view mirror. In the 80's women changed their minds and decided they wanted what they called "sensitive men" who cook, clean, change diapers, and yes, cry.

Personally, its not my bag for a man to cry, but these have become weeping times for them, as men (in pursuit of sex) have succumbed to this unfortunate baby-sh behaviour.

So, I say, Cry! Cry all the time,...I hear you get more women like that!

[Proletariat]

We sound to be in the same boat, but me after initiation, around the same time, I have never gushed tears.

Not because I have never come across situations that can squeeze tears out of my eye sockets, but I hold them back as much as I can.

I have been telling my woman that I wish so much to be able to cry. I read another strong argument, that when one cries, for different reasons, e.g happiness, joy, sadness, the body is relieved off a lot of toxins that tears carry.

Thus, in my case, I have been holding back a lot of toxins. Like what Vicky has said, it is human to cry.

Ladies do cry oftently and this help them so much since they feel relieved.

But I don't advocate the crocodile tears that most Americans, men included, shed especially on talk shows.

[Sireli_1]

Males have the highest suicide rates especially in western countries. I know in Australia, where I'm currently based, male suicide rates outnumber those of females 4-1. Shrinks, quacks and other people-analysts attribute this to the reluctance of males to display their true emotions. I'm compelled to agree with this conclusion.

That said, I think its a fact that crying in front of your g/friend, wife will reduce your worth in her eyes. Women (according to me), need to feel that their men are pillars of strength. Your g/friend will initially find it cute and touching but I'm sure your prestige will be reduced in her eyes. Guys, if you are going to cry, do it in private.

However, there's a caveat. I knew one guy who had a very strong and aggressive personality, never one to give up in a physical altercation, yet could be reduced to years by a sad movie or sad situation. Its that kind of crying and emotional vulnerability that the girls can't resist. If you are a weak type of male (read sissy), crying makes you look very bad. However, if you are the Denzel Washington, Tyson Beckford (the model) tough looking (and truely tough type, capable of kicking the next man's head in), crying and other displays of emotion boost your attractiveness to females 100 more times.

That's why if you are trying to attract the woman of your dreams, get badly injured whilst battling a mad alligator to save her life. Your weakness after your act of courage is the best aphrodisiac.

[lale]

i dont see anything wrong with a dude crying...so long as he does in private!!!!!!!!!

[observant]

mmmmmmmmmm(mant to be a strong African click) mercedes. Ati you got closer to your dad when you saw him crying.I'm sure when you're future husband is kulaing mamas on the side and starts crying for sympathy you'll cry with him ehh??

[Kimamaa]

The damnest thing I've ever heard! Yaani you make it sound as if our African Men are made out of stones, they got feelings too kama kila mtu. It helps to cry it out.