Is marriage the ultimate proof of LOVE?

[ThisAngelWearsGivenchy]

Religion and law aside, what makes you digg marriage? I personally believe i dont need any brains/documents/pens/signatures/counselling and what have you, to know i love someone.Some UK celebrity called Charlotte Church once said she and her partner (some rugby player) 'are getting all the hard bits out of the way first (including having children) then they will get married'. What's your take on this? I don't know about the 'having children first' plan, but I have had cravings of a dang cool wedding (I attended one lovely one this past weekend) but not 'being married' Your opinions highly welcome.

[kreativ]

...marriage ought to be an expression of Love but I guess we take it more of as a formality in the sense that u get into it because time is not on ur side....and offcorse for all the other ugly reasons.....

[msema ukweli Kabisa]

believe i dont need any brains/documents/pens/signatures/counselling and what have you, to know i love someone.

Love is a very small ingredient when it comes to marriage. So many factors come into play

[Dem Gal]

[QUOTE=ThisAngelWearsGivenchy;876472]Religion and law aside, what makes you digg marriage? I personally believe i dont need any brains/documents/pens/signatures/counselling and what have you, to know i love someone.QUOTE]

Nothing really. I honestly believe that were it not for the Law and Religion, most couples would never get married....they would just co-habit. Weddings are such an expensive and emotionally draining process, its hard to imagine any sane person would wanna go through it.

[msema ukweli Kabisa]

[QUOTE=Dem Gal;876549]

Originally Posted by ThisAngelWearsGivenchy

Religion and law aside, what makes you digg marriage? I personally believe i dont need any brains/documents/pens/signatures/counselling and what have you, to know i love someone.QUOTE]

Nothing really. I honestly believe that were it not for the Law and Religion, most couples would never get married....they would just co-habit. Weddings are such an expensive and emotionally draining process, its hard to imagine any sane person would wanna go through it.

what about customary marriage where law and religion is held lightly. Si we see guys in shagz still doing the customary dowry thingy...

And weddings are such a pain planning, I have been through one!! But those 16 hours of the wedding day are worth it

[Dem Gal]

[QUOTE=msema ukweli Kabisa;876551]

Originally Posted by Dem Gal

what about customary marriage where law and religion is held lightly. Si we see guys in shagz still doing the customary dowry thingy...

I think by 'law', all manner of laws including customary laws are included. Ask those shagz mundu's if they wouldn't prefer getting the 'cookies' with no customary legal implications. I bet you they would jump for joy!

And weddings are such a pain planning, I have been through one!! But those 16 hours of the wedding day are worth it

I hear one is soooooo exhuasted, the day passes them by in a haze. They only see the evidence that the day existed on the wedding video. True? I might have been mis-informed (afew times)

[ThisAngelWearsGivenchy]

Kreative, what if one is ok with time??
Demgal, i like weddings...i actually would love to have one...if only it didn't mean 'being married' after the glitz and glamour lol.Although there sure is a lot of headache that goes into planning a wedding.My sister almost died lol.
MUK what are your factors?
If two people love each other and things are going ok, why complicate it with sujui joint accounts, pre-nupt bla bla and meeting some excessively annoying extended relatives (from both sides).For a black person it's even worse, every relative wants to have a say. Goodness me! Black includes Italians,Latinos etc. Africans top that list though. The list of my mother's aunt from a second cousin sijui what. Jesus Christ son of God!

[mandom]

yes i do believe that marriage is proof of love. but love for what money, status, genes or maybe sex. the genuine marriages are very few. but marriage even for those in love is a personal issue. some will want glamourous weddings while some love private sessions. in this world where fakin it has become a way of life true love and genuine marriages are hard to find.

[mandom]

just wonderin are italians black? and i dont think there is any culture out there where family members dont like to be included in weddin preparations. take indians, chinese, arabs etc. i dont think its an african thing as u put it.

[Waithera Cherono Akoth]

i agree that it doesnt hve to do with pens but chic..,i think if u wana spend the rest of ur life with someone he ought to make it official..,.,
that way i kno hes serious ...

again ur cravings for a wedding..,u don need a huge wedding to be maried..,as someoen said..,love ..,its more impotant!!

having kids before mariage....,thats a personal opinion but for me..,nope~!~~ ring first..,kids later!!!
i jus wana avoid the whole baby daddy thing...,its geting old and not fair eitha....,