so many single ladies ova 30....,not by choice....Y>???

[Waithera Cherono Akoth]

...........,ok there is this lady at work ...she cries all the time tellin me how
shes soo lonely and cant find a man yet shes getin old and all that...,
she even tried akataz from dating sites who
have proven no no...,u kno how they are..............,i thot it was jus her till today.....,

it was a bday of a friend she turned 31. so i was jus joking and i told
ha its about time she started introducing mr. handsome to us..,it was
a joke but she didnt take it lightly!!!! hrs later is when she opened up
and told me she focused soo much on skul and graduating, geting a job
and thinking she
had forever to be young and all of a suden shes bin loookin for a man
without success.....,i was soo sorry that i regreted opening my mouth!

.............., i stil don get it tho...u wana tel me afta 30 its hard to find a man..,
like for real?? it told her men are everywea and she asked me to
mention one place and i was like umhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh ( i dono)...,
wea do pple find good kenyan men in stato?????>,exclude church
and club is not on the list........................

[Blackheart]

Seriously.....in this day and age..that's what you think even after "meeting" peeps like me...I'm disappointed in you..I'm turning 32....and my life ain't over, you said yourself said I look good for my age or was it younger...ain't the point...life goes on....

[erc1195]

Dating in America is complicated because firstly Americans use a formal time consuming indirect dating style...which involves the following steps:
1. get the name
2. get the number
3. first date
4. second date...etc

Secondly there is the issue of rejection, STDS and sexual harassment. Nobody likes been rejected, even though many guys and girls in their twenties with sex on their minds, will approach almost anybody, things change as people grow older...after thirty most people are not looking for mere sex they want a relationship...and a relationship depends on hooking up with someone that you are compatible with...

The problem is that the guys don't approach the ladies and the ladies don't approach the guys...the result is that you have millions of lonely, sexually frustrated people in America.

The best time to get married and have children is when you are in your twenties...after that life becomes rather complicated...with work, bills, etc.,

[tigerlili]

I think its because we have changed our priorities from the days when after your breasts pop out you think you are ready for marriage and many a man are willing to put you in the family way.

(a naive child is turned into a mother and punching bag but she accepts it as normal as it happens to everyone else)

Nowadays we dont want to be a mans pet/punching bag/duster ya kukanyaga.
so we put all time and energy in doing what will make us rich successful and independent. which is in turn supposed to filter the quality of man that will come into your life. but we are taking our time in this selection process that we hit 30 and are shocked that we are still alone. then the scramble begins.

while before it was the best man to fit my expectations now its any man that will have me.but boy oh boy can men smell desperation from a mile away and they come in droves but only to hit and run. hawataki story nyingi.

worse case scenario is the hit and runner has a sugar coated tongue.... next thing you know he is off with your cash. and you are back to square one at 40 and still dont understand how that could happen to a woman of your calibre(EDUCATED,WELLGROOMED,WELL SPOKEN AND EVEN WEALTHY)

then your now married friends will be laughing behind your back saying " huyo ni mjinga sana vile alikuwa anaringa ati na tweng ya amerika. imagine she cant even find a husband its like they were just f**cking her and saying thank you)

[okiedokes]

Originally Posted by Blackheart

Seriously.....in this day and age..that's what you think even after "meeting" peeps like me...I'm disappointed in you..I'm turning 32....and my life ain't over, you said yourself said I look good for my age or was it younger...ain't the point...life goes on....

One of my friends got married last year in May and right after she adviced me not to wait too long b/c the men will stop coming. She dated the guy for 5 yrs before they married and she was fortunate it worked out. It doesn't always work that way for everyone else. Sometimes your life path is mapped out differently due to circumstances. The main thing I will say is not to start a race against the clock, b/c it will come off as desperation and in such situations one is highly likely to just accept anyone not the one.

Does anyone here watch "The Real Housewives of New York City"? There is one lady, Bethenny, 37 yrs old, very successful and desperately wants to marry & start a family. She was dating a guy named Jason last season and he had 3 kids already. He also had no intentions of having more kids, and at the time she said she didn't mind. Turns out she really did want to have kids and broke things off. She wasted so much time pursuing something she knew won't work out b/c their plans were different. The point I'm making is sometimes as women, we don't know how to date for marriage. We tend to date like men which doesn't work for us b/c our bodies are different.

I'm not 30 yet but in that age where relatives think "I should have been married by now" and some are already wondering what is 'wrong' with me. They think I'm too picky but I tell them that they won't think that way if they met some of these guys. It's a vicious world out here and because many people don't have their immediate families in the west, things are more complicated. Many african women married abroad are going through hell and part of the reason is there really is no support system, or someone they can go to when problems arise. Some of them also marry without doing the traditional marriage rites or having the dowry paid. A guy who married you for alterior reasons has no reason to really commit in such situations. But when he's paid your dowry he will have his family and yours to contend with if he dares screw up.

[Jonny_Swaggs]

Originally Posted by okiedokes

One of my friends got married last year in May and right after she adviced me not to wait too long b/c the men will stop coming. She dated the guy for 5 yrs before they married and she was fortunate it worked out. It doesn't always work that way for everyone else. Sometimes your life path is mapped out differently due to circumstances. The main thing I will say is not to start a race against the clock, b/c it will come off as desperation and in such situations one is highly likely to just accept anyone not the one.

I think its tough for the woman after 30yr. But whats wrong with being single make your money and enjoy your freedom.... kids are not for everyone either, they are dirty, noisy, demanding and expensive.

[ThisAngelWearsGivenchy]

I don't care much about marriage at a certain age but when i reach 30, i want to be in a stable relationship...not much of a change from right now..so no worries. If I'm 30 and every guy around me is a looser, then ikae tu. Fine being single, no taking remains.

[Kukurukakakara]

Originally Posted by ThisAngelWearsGivenchy

I don't care much about marriage at a certain age but when i reach 30, i want to be in a stable relationship...not much of a change from right now..so no worries. If I'm 30 and every guy around me is a looser, then ikae tu. Fine being single, no taking remains.

On the thread titled "How old are you mashadites", said you are 34.

Originally Posted by ThisAngelWearsGivenchy

I'm 34 and still a virgin (I'm saved).

Here is the link: How old are you mashadites...

Now on this thread you are yet to turn 30. Not that it really matters to me, but I couldn't help noticing that discrepancy.

[ThisAngelWearsGivenchy]

Originally Posted by Kukurukakakara

On the thread titled "How old are you mashadites", said you are 34.



Here is the link: How old are you mashadites...

Now on this thread you are yet to turn 30. Not that it really matters to me, but I couldn't help noticing that discrepancy.

Damn it, someone hacked into my profile and typed the above Lol KK

[Kukurukakakara]

Originally Posted by ThisAngelWearsGivenchy

Damn it, someone hacked into my profile and typed the above Lol KK

If you say so.