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Frag, I agree with you. You set boundaries and make consequences known. Whatever he does after that, he knows where you stand on the issue. We can't control others but we have control over what we can do about a situation.

Some men are also honest about such things e.g one guy told me that his gf's attitude about cheating makes a big difference. If she's not one to tolerate it, he tries harder not to cheat(and believes he can be faithful) but if she is lax about it, he won't try to resist temptation.

As we talk about the men, we shouldn't forget the women they cheat with. I'm more disgusted by the women who don't have enough self-respect for themselves as well. Many times women know these men are married or in relationships, yet they proceed. The Rielle Hunter types who don't like to do the hard work of building a 20 year marriage, but enjoy reaping the labors of other women are just pathetic. So, until women learn to respect themselves more, I'm afraid this cycle will continue and only get worse.