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Originally Posted by Ester
Hey no no no sweetie, I would never allow my man to go out on coffee dates, happy hour you name it; in the company of another woman,just the two of them. If it's a company-related event then sawa he's got my permission.
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Good to see you are actually human!!
I never understand these women who have no qualms whatsoever in allowing their men to go our on dates alone in some dimly lit romatic setting like restaurants! Yani they sit back and watch their men spruce themselves up in preparation for the date....they even iron the shirt for him and they even suggest where the guy should take the other woman.WTF!!! Something is wrong there.Either she doesnt really love him/care for the relationship or she does(and is not really ok with the whole thing) but is bottling it all in.Which if I must say is very unhealthy both for her and the relationship.
Not that we should put our men on a literal leash but please!!Boundaries have to be set.We will not keep tabs on all he does but he must know where the line get drawn.Its common sense anyway he should know!
He should be free to see and do whatever he wants but at the same time his common sense with the aid of the (high) standards that you have set and made known to him should tell him how far he can go.
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But that level of outright mistrust would not provide the basis for a healthy relationship, now would it?Therefore, there are instances where I'll have to trust him and my gut instincts.
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True true.
As we trust them, we should also let them know what is acceptable and what is not.If he stays within the boundaries, trust will flow and flood even....like Tsunami.
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If she's hotter and more educated than I am, then those lights will be flashing like crazy. On the other hand, if she's a married, matronly woman then maybe not so much.
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I know what you mean but as Devine points out up there, sometimes, you may think a man is looking for beauty.But there are times he will be attracted to a woman because of something deeper than physical beauty. Thats why you see sometimes a man cheats on his beautiful wife or educated wife with something the wind blew in or the cat dragged in
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Anyway not all men cheat (emotionally, physically or otherwise), and my boyfie is a very good example. I mean, we've been dating for sometime and stuff like premarital s** or other would be no-brainers for most guys (in terms of making out) are still a big deal to him.
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This is where I choose to agree to disagree. He may look like all that right now (dont they all) but in your heart of hearts, be prepared for anything.He is just a man.Be ready to accommodate his shortcomings as a man....or to walk away.**** happens.
FYI,most women who are cheated on, believe their men are the exception to the rule.They believe that some how the universe did some cosmic ........thing and gave them the one and only man who is different from all men and he doesn't cheat.......ok I will stop now.I dont want to dampen your spirits.
Even me my man, tells me all that.You know? How am all he ever wants in a woman, how since he met me he doesnt even see other women etc LOL I take it all with a pinch of salt.I dont argue or give him that look of "yeah right". I give him the benefit of doubt but am prepared for anything and I know how I will handle the **** if it happens.But I hope it doesnt.
