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Originally Posted by mo-uk

A womans place is her home

Finally you found yourself the perfect guy. Handsome young charismatic and even a great smile that will make you melt You love him he loves you. Your family loves him , the one you have been searching for all your life . You finally found him ( or he found you whatever the case maybe). Here at your feet is the 'golden man'. Too good to be true!

He thinks you are the girl he has been looking for. Things go smooth no bumps along the way. You both decide this is it, marriage next. He expects nothing form you other than to be a stay home mum. He wishes you stay home and not work , look after him and his children.
What would you do? Freak out yell I did not finish a four year degree to be a stay home mum . Or would you kindly keep quite be happy you find a wonderful husband.

So gurls my question is how many of you would drop their careers for the golden boy and how many of you will refuse to be a stay home mum. BTW there is nothing wrong with being a stay home mum. No stress carefree life , look pretty all day since you have all the time in the world. I mean there are advantages and disadvantages both ways right?


So what would you do? if your future spouse demands you will not work full-time or part-time. And out of curiousty how many guys here will demand their wives stay home?

There is nothing like "No stress carefree life" when it comes to being a stay-at-home mom. In fact, there is information that suggests that a stay-at-home mom does more work than she would do actually going out of her home for work. At a job, people have scheduled breaks and can use that time to relax, or grab a bite with colleagues. At home, and with little children especially, there isn't any guarantee that they will comply to rules, or your schedule.
Very recently a research study showed that men add on average an extra 7 hours of housework per week. Add this to being a stay-at-home mom, cooking, etc. PLEASE!

To answer your question, I will rather go out everyday and work than be a stay-at-home mom. It's not about making use of my degree but about having my own thing outside of a marriage. You were someone before the marriage, why stop being that person after? The only thing that is constant in life is change. There is no guarantee that a man/woman will remain committed and faithful throughout a marriage. What happens when trouble begins and you have no financial means to get yourself and your children to safey? Imagine having to ask a man for money to go buy sanitary pads? Yikes!!

Some countries make it relatively easy for working mothers. They have 1 year paid maternity leave, depending on the job type. So after that one year, I don't see why a previously working mother wouldn't wanna go back.