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Now tactician listen very carefully, infact I wanted to find the females opinion before I rested my case after my first post on this thread.

Women will give you very good advice regarding feelings and emotions from their perspective, and there are quite a number here, I even see one asking whether men view all things as negative – this is not so dear, we analyse from experience and unfortunately we put less heart and more mental (male perspective usually) than vice versa which is usually female. (that’s why when a guy is probably thinking of taking a big step with you he draws back emotionally)

I smiled when I read you scenario because it was almost 100% similar to someone I know, He went on and had a long relationship with the said lady, but things came to a head after some time.

You need to establish one thing that at this point is the most serious one am seeing, what are your galfriends long term goals on herself, not her relationships, you mentioned that the chutta was 7 years older, and she considered herself in a relationship with him. Did she ever meet the family and friends of the said guy??

If not my friend you are dealing with woman who has an inferiority complex and she is of the type who believes her way to comfort is to ensnare a man with cash probably an asian or Caucasian.

How did I arrive at this? A woman going out with a guy that older is usually thinking long term unless he is a sugar daddy (which in any case you don’t want that), if she was comfortable not being known by anybody in his family or circle of friends, that means she was probably a FUBU and was OK with it, and the guy knew it as much. Am paying particular attention because the guy is a chutt and not a Caucasian, in Kenya I believe. Even though there has been a few Indian African couples, the norm in most cases its just a fling or arrangement.

You will fall in love and live in bliss until the next fast lane to easy life comes along (this conclusion is only based on the premise that you find out she was a FUBU in the first place) otherwise not everybody is the same, am being true to who I am, I build all my cases from a worst case scenario, and work on adding positives, gives me a better perspective, than getting an angel and shedding all the goodness (very depressing).