[okiedokes]

Tactician...you raise some worrisome facts there. Have a heart to heart with her. Start by telling her how much you care for her(will make her less defensive, and more forth coming) but that you want to discuss some things that bother you and you'd appreciate her honesty. Ask her if she intends to travel with the asian dude? She would be shell shocked, but hey, you need to know right?

If she messing with you, you need to know and not waste your time when there's someone out there waiting for a dude like you.

I still think she may have told probably b/c of guilt though one never knows, and ofcourse thinking that it is enough to make any man dump a woman. Society has wired this into our heads you know. But guess what, if you don't leave her, then she just might realise how blessed she is to have you. But please, don't hang on to the relationship if you don't feel right about it.

She seems to be planning to "visit" you in the same time frame as when dude is travelling so it makes sense to be suspicious. How about you ask her to come visit you instead in 2 weeks(b/c u miss her) and if she comes ask her to visit again in 3-4 weeks after that? That way, the guy is gone already and if she plans to leave with him, she won't make it to week 5 in Nai right? Her responses or excuses might give some insight.

About her showing increased interest when you met her friends, ofcourse she wants to make sure her friends don't do a displacement reaction on her while she is distracted by this other dude. One thing about women is, love us but don't make us feel u will die without us, because most women will exploit it to the max. Also, never make the mistake of letting us think you can do without us. Confusing huh? That's why it's kind of a lose-lose situation b/c most men are left confused.

What makes her think this man will start taking her calls all of a sudden? Again, the weird wiring of us women i have never understood. Travelling with a man who doesn't call/take your calls isn't exactly what I call wisdom. If your gut instinct tells you something is still amiss after discussing with her, then it might be best to sever ties now before you get really hurt later.

"Bush faller" is anyone who has gone abroad, or has foreign status per se. So "bush faller syndrome" will be her thinking of the benefits she will have like going to Asia, seeing another country and also attaining the "bush faller" status.