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More info. is needed like how long you have been together? There are some aspects of one's past that one may not be comfortable sharing so soon either because it is shameful, or they feel guilty about it. In fact, it is advisable not to reveal too much too soon but at some point it is best to come clean. It is best to define yourself, before such acts define who you are.

So my thinking is may be she has gotten to the point where she feels comfy being open and honest with you about almost everything. She probably feels secure in the relationship now, so it will be in your best interest to leave the lines of communication open. If you get judgemental at this point, she won't reveal any other info. Just try to be cool about it, but if you have concerns ask questions but be careful how you go about it. Please discuss it out of bed, LOL.

Remember, her past is her past and you have yours too. About her ex, make it clear you are not happy about her keeping in touch with him and she lying to you. Let her work to earn your trust. There's something about us women, we hang on to things or men that are not positive to our lives. *sigh*

You said he's asian right? So it could be the "bush faller syndrome" affecting her in which case if you looking for something serious, it might be time to part ways if she doesn't change.