[Fraglante]

Are there women here, who in that very moment of weakness justified your actions to a potential mate or even spouse without it being solicited??

Without it being solicited? NO.However, its important to bear in mind that he may solicit indirectly.He may not even know he is soliciting. During those ‘bonding’ sessions, one gets to learn quite a lot about the likes and dislikes of the other from what they say. If you are keen you can read a lot between the lines. They may never say ‘I hate xyz’ but out of the abundance of the heart so the man speaketh… When he repeats something over and over even though its done unconsciously in every day conversations, I feel like blurting out ‘ok ok I did it. Am guilty as charged’

That’s when you get 'that look'. But you cant stop, you go on and on and on about that ‘xyz’ that you did. And because you know at the back of your mind that he doesn’t like it you find yourself trying to justify it and eventually even seeking forgiveness even though you know he will never blame you for anything you did before you met.

It just happens. Not that you decide to sit him down and give him your history. Or that you are having problems forgiving yourself. That’s not the case you just want to be in his good books.

Have you apologized past wrongs to a man, probably because you think sooo much about this guy that you feel you wronged him in the present though the ‘wrong’ was in your past??

With reference to the above. Yes I have done it. Of course when am apologizing for the wrong in my past I am not doing it because when I was doing it I knew it was wrong but rather am doing it to fit into his way of seeing things. It may not be wrong to me but if it is wrong to him then by all means I want to be right by him.

Is this what they mean when they say, try and have sex in marriage with your life partner, then you will not have guilt nor need for absolution??

Probably.

And usually there is a saying that goes, even a b.itch will one day meet her match in a man, so will she have the same issues, of feeling guilty of her past??

Maybe yes maybe no. It all depends on the man. If what the ‘b.itch’ did in the past is wrong by him she will have the same issues with him. If its all good by him …. They will have a ball reminiscing and sharing experiences.The man is the one who will make her feel guilty in most cases.

Oh and let me add this:
The man in question better be the future husband! Under no circumstances should a woman go disclosing her past ‘mistakes’ to every potential mate. She is entitled to her secrets and under no circumstance should she feel coerced by any Tom, D.ick and Harry. If she does, then she has a problem. She has deeper issues.