[ATLian]

Now that I don't fight, I need to forgive people who mistreat others for me to shake off ill-feelings. Yes, I forgave Saddam for killing Iraqis. For me, forgiveness is the most selfish positive thing you can do to yourself

OK, assume John Doe comes to your house and kills your entire family, then beats you half to death. How would you react if some total stranger, who has no idea what you went through since he has never even met you, sends you an SMS saying he forgives John Doe. WTF? How does that make sense? You cannot forgive someone who did not harm you directly. By definition of the word, forgiveness is directed to those who have harmed you.

I think it's quite arrogant to sit in the luxury of your house and forgive Pol Pot for everything he did to Cambodia, yet you never suffered with the Cambodians, you have no idea what they went through, and you don't even know any Cambodians!