Hey, i feel for you, i had
exactly the same problem when i first came to the west. From where you are i will give you a couple of quick tips that may help you out: 1) first of all, stop and ask yourself, "why do you make friends in the first place?" if someone was outside of you and looking over your whole life, why would they say you make friends. Is it so you don't feel lonely, so you feel like people care for you, so you feel like someone needs you (like me), so you feel important why in the bluest of blue hells would this matter? you might ask. Well, when you figure out what you want out of people, at least now you know what to look for and the type of people who are worth your time. 2) get involved in something bigger than yourself. For me personally, 95% of my personal growth has come because i was once a very lonely person who felt that if i did today absoloutely no one but my family would care, and that scared me. That's when i decided that i would be so useful and unique and give so much to the world before i die that i will never be forgotten. Maybe you want to committ to do the same thing and find a place where you are needed, starving children, adoption centres, people who are lonely and need someone to talk to. 3) hang around the type of friends you had back home. Go source the churches, the clubs, the unis, the city centre, the forums. Look everywhere and anywhere until you find people who are like wasee wako wa mtaa. For myself i know this made a huge difference. Whatever you decide keep us posted and remember you are on mashada now, you're with family so if all else fails post on mashada. Be blessed the displaced african
the displaced african