[ATLian]

>Being gay is as much about choice if not more than it is about
>being genetic. There is no "gay gene" that has been
>scientifically proven and validated by different articles to
>exist. ...therefore until I see a
>blue print of a "gay gene" its a matter of choice as I see
>it.

Msoto,

did you chose to be straight? Did you ever fika the gay and straight crossroad in your life where you thought about going straight or gay, and after weighing options out, you decided to go straight? Of course not. You were born straight and that's it, period. So why do you think that gays reached that same crossroad and instead chose to go gay? If it doesn't exist for you, why should it exist for gays? Ditto the gay gene theory - of course there's no straight gene, so why should there be a gay gene? Let's not apply double standards.

I think gayness is just something you're born with. We had this guy in our primo (Westlands, for those alumns who may remember) who we used to call "Ballet" coz of how he used to run, walk, etc. From Standard 1, the chap had no interest in all the "manly" things like soccer, etc. He was just in his own world. Of course then we (and he) never understood what was up. It was only later on (after high school) that we realized that he was gay (right now he's openly gay in Nairobi). Ballet never had a choice, that's just how he was programmed. He'll never feel what I feel for chics, just like I'll never feel what he feels for guys. So why should we fault him for that - especially if you believe that it's god who makes us all as we are?