[sheilam]

I need advise on a relationship issue from all the mashada relationship gurus out there (I'm new to this forum)....
I have been seeing this guy for a quite awhile now he lives here in NY although we do not live together we are very close and spend most of our free time together.....but I have a problem. He is talking marriage and all but i have been keeping the fact that I have a terminal illness that I have hidden from him, since I don't want to worry him. it is nearing the point that I might need a transplant in the future, how far, I don't know but it is getting worse. I really love him and I would love to spend the rest of my life with him.
Is it fair for him to deal with a terminally ill wife and yet he is still very young? should I tell him or what? When we started going out I had planned to keep the relationship very non committal but who the hell knows what happened. He talks about having kids and I'm not sure if I can carry a full term pregnancy. pls help!!! I know he really loves me too