[milanya]

This is why you introduce your significant other to your famo but you don't let them bond until you guys are engaged!

My bf's sisters and I have hung out a lot but we're not really tight. They sense the distance from me but I do it for a reason. His ex was so tight with his sisters that she was in the family's issues and caused such drama. Now that they have broken up, she still hangs around his sisters much to his consternation (they had another bitter breakup) and mine as well. Their agreement is they have to go out with her on their own time, she is not invited to family events, and she is not allowed in their home. I guess it helps that his parents hated her all along.

His family told me right off the bat that they like me but they maintain their distance because they know where their loyalties lie for now, unless we tie the knot.

You have voiced your opinions to your sis, you are entitled to your hurt, but they are both adults so there is not much you can do. The jamaa is 7-9 years her senior? Kwani wanafanya nini pamoja? Next thing you know they'll be a 'my sister stole my ex' thread
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