[milanya]

What is an ex-ex?

This is the typical case of a chic saying. 'It's okay honey' when it is clearly not, and then expecting him to know that. I don't know why women tend to do that. Myself included. In my relationships I have had to make a constant effort to fight that. I think it's because when women have issues between women we can usually pick up on an 'it's okay' that's not genuine. But men are simple creatures, so keep it simple.

I think it was wrong of him to put himself in that situation. However he committed to it. I would not host my ex's family unless it was an ex husband and I had his children! I understand that you are upset, but calm down. The situation is as is for now. The best you can do right now is suck it up and maybe even join them on an outing, that way you get to spend time with him too. It shall be awkward but it'll help you asses the situation better and if all is well he shall love you more for your graciousness in such an awkward situation.

When it is all over you will need to sit down and talk. I don't believe ex's should be friends in a serious relationship (if you don't agree, that's why I'm not dating you) because if you've loved someone before, or especially slept with them, it is too familiar of a territory. So you'd better discuss this when they are gone or else in the future you'll be married and having his ex-girlfriend and her family over for Christmas.