[m kenya]

>I have a question to y'all mashadites and before start
>matusi read carefully and don't feel obligated to answer if ur
>answer won't help me. I am seeing this guy who live in a
>different state. I'm really smitten and I want this to work
>but there is a problem. when we started out about 8 months ago
>he called all the time, I get to see him every month (we
>alternate visits)he come to OK and I go to Bama. I know that
>he really loves me but our phone calls are getting scarce and
>scarcer. I really don't have to talk to him everyday (although
>I'd love to)Im not sure what to think and I don't want to nag
>him about it and on the other hand if we keep it this way I'll
>get bored and lose my feelings for him and I don't want that
>either.I'm in a bind thinking that he is getting too comfy
>with what we have or he is not interested anymore. It's a long
>distant relationship and like a fire, if you don't stoke it on
>a regular basis then the embers die. should I talk to him or
>just move on with my life. p.s he actually want me to move in
>with him. please help.
>

My advise is for you to let it die, becoz if u go into overdrive to stoke the embers, ala fone calls etc, it will be cosmetic, coz its not coming from your gut,you are just hoping that he will pick a phrase and the high tempo will resume as before. It wont, it doesnt.
Its not always bad to let it die, coz the death is not temporary.Your relationship is entering a new phrase, where the lenses of emotions are off, and reality is setting in. Its not a bad thing. But it will call for you to start communicating from your gut, and him from his.
You are just getting real with each other, the emotions are wearing off. You are not divorcing, and there is NOTHING wrong with either of you. You are just accessing a higher plateau, in the 'getting together game', namely going beyond "appearances and pleasing each other".
For once, drop the program, drop the "pre-arranged" ways of doing things.The times for calling, the date for meeting, just drop those 'programs' that initially brought you together. Get him to sample you in your daily routine of school, work, gym, etc. Go do otherwise, sample him during his days in, when its all natural and stuff. That way, the rosyness will dissapear and you will strive more for "understanding" based on love.
I dont think your relationship is ending. I think you have been strong enuff to move to stage 2.

But Milanya what is LDL..Long distance what?
Poster which state is Bama? Never heard of that...
lastly, is this your first time, or is this a multiple handle?