[patt]

it is always good to marry your own people. speak the same dialect. have same shags (ushago). similar traditions etc. but if fate gives you someone from a different tribe and you love the person to death, why should your parents decide who you should marry? if you are over 18, you have every right to make your own decisions which includes decision on the person you want to marry. if you truly love that jamaa of yours, you wouldn't be in mashada asking mashadites what they think. when you are in love, no one's opinion counts except your own coz you know how the person makes you feel and it's difficult to put it in words for outsiders to understand. all you can do to show how much you are into each other is jump like tom cruise on oprah.

tell your parents you are going to go against their wish just this once and what you need from them is support not opinions. take your boyfriend to them and let your parents get to know him as a person, not a tribe. with the changing world, things could be worse...you could announce that you are a lesbian to them....THEY'LL TAKE THE kikuyu ANYTIME