[Americanized]

These 50 (or is it 40?) things are the product of the western mind. They tend to over-analyze relationships to the point that if a jamaa only does 30 out of those 50 things, the girl is convinced he doesn't love her, or that he's not her "soul mate". I prefer the African view of love. You do nice things for each other spontaneously because you love each other, not coz you're working from some damn checklist!