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>msema kweli, i dont mind that he has a good heart, that is
>one of the reasons i penda him. lakini you cannot go save the
>world and neglect those who are right there in front of you,
>neglect your responsibilities. You cannot serve to masters.
>What good is it to go save all the chics in ur high school if
>your sisters are at home high on weed and pregnant coz u r too
>busy playing superman for everyone else? What good is it
>giving out your paycheck to help your neighbours while your
>kids have been sent home for lack of school fees.
>Plus, if you don't look after your own responsibilities, that
>will eventually catch up with you and you'll end up so messed
>up you won't even be able to help other people.
>
>It is like when you are on a plane and it is going down. Wear
>your oxygen mask then help others put theirs on. Ama you will
>suffocate as you try helping them and they will suffocate coz
>u suffocated and it all goes to waste
>
>In life you have to pick your battles. You can't save
>everyone. Even paramedics have rules of triage, they can't
>save everyone.
>Life's not a garden so don't be a hoe

@Milanya, your response above is a classic case of a 'woi woi' reply to Musema kweli's comments. You should have refuted his comments using the example you gave in the initial post. Nowhere in your post do you mention what you have just mentioned above hence Musema kweli's conclusion that your husband's action are for the better good of mankind.

I'll help you out. In the below comments you made, is it not fair if I conclude that the motive behind those woman is pure selfishness? Spending, working hard, and giving being the main words here are all relative to some base. Nowhere do you mention the disadvantage those ladies have to go through in terms of less money in the bank, no output for the work he does, or the constant state of no money for the giver. You just mentiond intangible results like being irritaed, pissed and what have you.

>...They got married and now he still does it but
>she relaized just how much money he spends on it and that is
>now an issue...
>...but now she is pissed because he is a workaholic mpaka
>usiku wa manane in the family study while she sleeps alone.
>
>...For my bf, he is super helpful. He is always running around
>helping everyone and lending an ear, an arm, money whatever.
>He's such a giver. However, the longer we've been together it
>has to irritate me...

In the next comments, and these specifically refer to your boyfriend, I can safely conclude that he is not the nice loving always ready to help kind of guy, but a guy who is running away from his responsibilities. See how it sounds, "Missing class, losing dollars, losing sleep, failing grades." Either he doesn't like his life as it is or he is simply plain lazy or worse he is trying to run away from you (pray not).

>...So he ended up losing a lot of $$$, references, his
>job just so he could help his pal out... >
>...Then he volunteers to drive people places asubuhi na mapema
>mpaka he is too tired to go to class and hence there goes his
>grades...
>...sees anyone sad, he dont care if it is 3 a.m he will stop and
>talk to the person till they feel better and then be shindwad
>to amka the next day.
>...sometimes, esp because half these people he is dropping his
>life for couldnt care less about him and even use him.
>...Plus,he is letting his priorites go, but nooooo! superman to the
>rescue. I like to play psychologist somnetimes

I rest my case.