[melissa1973]

I have been “dating” this guy for about 5 months now, and I am worried as of how straight he is. Ever since day 1 that we met, we found that we share many interests and activities. Therefore, we spend all weekends together, playing games, going to the movies, playing pool, cooking, and dancing (we both love it, working, sleeping, discussing future. I meet his friends and he meets mine. And they all know we are in some kind of a "relationship". We have been traveling together quite a bit, and are still making future plans to travel to cool cities. Our work places are close to one another, so during the week, we sometimes meet for lunch. All seems so perfect, I have a great time with him, and he says he enjoys being with me. BUT

There are two weird things though, at least weird in my mind.

Anytime, we discuss relationship he says, “right now I don’t want to date” or “right now I don’t want a girlfriend”” . What else is needed to call a relationship a date, or your partner “a boyfriend”? He told me about his past, and the last relationship he had, turned into a psycho case. But still it does not explain why he doesn’t want to call it a date, or a boyfriend girlfriend relationship. He refers to us as being “very close friend, or very good friend”.

The other point even more troublesome is that he would not want me to visit him at his place. So all the time, we are at my place. It is very bizarre to me, as I am used to relationship, in where we go to each other place. That point I cannot explain to myself.