[chotadipo]

>Its more to do with closure than anything. Jamaas usually
>have a hard time ending relationships "the right way"...in
>fact I was just thinking about that today. They either do
>something to hurt the girl or they just keep it hanging but
>never talk about formal ending...Ive noticed this trend that a
>guy will never ever hold a discussion with you about breaking
>up EVER! They either can't handle it or ..I dont get it at
>all. It helps when you talk to a chille like a man and tell
>her to her face that the relationship has to end for reasons
>ABC...and then people move on and life is very easy.
>
>Yep the contributor that I agree with is the one that talked
>about closure. Its very easy. Pull your guts together and TALK
>TO THE GIRL....it doesnt kill.
>
>Whead.
>
>PS: A friend of mine (not me) was into a certain dude only
>until her ex came back into the picture (the relationship had
>ended) and complicated things by "undoing" the closure..now
>she is in love with two dudes just coz of lack of closure I am
>sure that once she gets closure with the stupid ex shell love
>only that one dude lol. Not me by the way.
>
>Peace.
>
>
I think it is insensitive to tell someone on their face that IT IS ALL OVER. The beauty about language is that it takes many forms and there are less subtle ways of communicating.

Having said that, I think the overriding factor is the hurt. It is good to mitigate it by being non confrontational even if you may appear to be vague, and letting time soften the heart.

I would not like anybody to leave me by calling up a meeting and telling me on the face whether directly or in so many words that they are LEAVING ME. You see sanity is not a gurantee, it really depends...