[Nxele]

>i fear am in real trouble here. am financially stable (an
>international job, good academic papers, etc) but a little shy
>and introverted. i've tried to be good to galz but it seems am
>only attracted to galz that are unavailable to me or those who
>are not serious with life. me i want to move in and be nice
>and committed to her. no playing--just being nice and good
>24/7. roho safi. but all i get is frustration.i wonder: can a
>good gal fall in love with a shy good man. or do i have to
>play macho and rough?

Reminds me one hot summer time at Lalapanzi. We had left jobo earlier than usual lying by the pool side sipping on some mazoe citrius juice. Some dude had insisted on having the TV brought to the pool-side and CNN was showing. On CNN it was the inauguration of Joseph Kabila as the president of DRC a young lad of 29 . I happened to have wondered aloud "That jomba is slightly older than me and he is President where did I go wrong?" .One of my buddies said "I did everything right as I was told , even went to church every sunday and here I am." . This old dude who was basking by the pool-side said,"I know where you guys went wrong." Spontaneously we all blurted out "WHERE!" and he said "You all followed the rules". On that sweltering afternoon at Lalapanzi it dawned on me how the game of life is played by the winners.