[mpwani]

>When I came to the states, i had a girlfriend that I had to
>leave in Kenya. It's not like we broke up or had a fight or
>anything. In fact we were so hot and heavy up till the plane
>flew out of JKIA. It would have been easier if we had had a
>falling out so I could forget about her and move on.
>
>Now I have been in the states for six years and I have already
>married an American woman whom I love dearly, too. But the
>problem is that every now and then I remember the good times I
>had with my ex and miss her.
>
>I feel like this is a betrayal of the woman I am married to. I
>feel guilty that I still have feelings for my ex even though
>we haven't talked in three years.
>
>Is this normal? Is anybody else out there going through the
>same shyt?

@2fly- I feel you.I feel even more for your ex. I went thru the same.The guy left for the States, I left for the UK - we didn't break up.Long distance and keeping it real didn't work very well- we just drifted apart.After a couple of years down the line.I did what you did- I met somebody else and got married.

Can one love two people at the same time? Could work but you'll always love one more than the other. Who?- spouse or ex? It depends on the level of intensity......

Don't feel guilty about having feelings for your ex- It's OK, infact it is healthy.I would be surprise if you didn't,especially since you didn't break up with her.She probably still has feelings for you too.I also think about my ex and I still have very strong feelings for him, I feel good when I think about him.


2fly- I hope this makes you feel better,
my 2 cents...