[sunaisa]

Ya'll. This is a serious issue. I'm glad that someone brought it up! In the course of our discussions let us not forget that sex is not purely a physical act, it transcends the physical. God intended it to be the ultimate expression of one's love for another person. Now, if you view it in that light...ask yourself this. If someone took something that was yours, yours and yours alone. Irrespective of whether it was your mother, father, brother, sister, stranger..WHOEVER...
would it not be theft? Why would you call it something else depending on who did it? In the same way, it doesn't really matter whether you know the person or not. When one is raped, one is RAPED. Full stop. One is violated. One's person - both physical and emotional - is violated. Now, yes, in a marriage the partners already have knowledge of one another...but it doesn't change anything. Yes, they are two different scenarios...but when your husband/wife does it, in my opinion it reduces them to a person in the street. Love doesn't do that kinda crap.
I see in this some similarities to slavery and wife battery. Slave owners consoled themselves with the Bible and notions that Africans were lesser beings. Wife beaters and molestors do the same thing. These notions that women need to be controlled or dominated...and can even be bought are what keep us down. All in all, it is a sad attempt to elevate oneself by stepping on another.
As for the 'man' (I use the word only in a biological sense) who spoke about it being his 'right'.... if you had a daughter, would you feel the same? I pity you because the beauty of love-making lies in it's absolute surrender of one person totally to the other. When taken by force as one's 'right' it is mere sex. A simple exchange of bodily fluids and perhaps a few grunts on your end. You could NEVER satisfy a women totally going into it with that attitude and what's even worse, you will never be satisfied either. Your satisfaction will only be a delusion. Men like that are destined to go uncontrollably from one bed to another. In search of satisfaction...but never knowing it. You may force her to have sex with you...but she'll never make love to you! No one can take that.

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world."
Mahatma Gandhi