[oneliner]

The way you describe your fear is that someone will "cage you in." This has a couple of possible dangers. The first is that you may be a bit on the "hyper-independent" side of things, needing to remain a bit too autonomous in a relationship. If this is true, you need to find out what the underlying fear is and where it comes from. It could be a fear of intimacy or a fear of losing your boundaries when you are in a relationship. You need to be able to be close and at the same time not allow someone to control you. If your boundaries are too weak, then you may need to create distance in order to maintain them

Dr. Cloud