It doesn't scare me I just think it's a waste of time. If I know right off you are not my soul mate even if you look like Alicia Keys and have Mother Theresa's heart why do I wanna get committed yet I know I'll never marry you?
In any case, at a certain age as a teacher of ours used to say, socialise but don't specialise until you are ready.
If I meet the right woman I won't even blink before getting into a commitment.
A pointer for ladies though. In conversations stick to the present. Like a wise dude here once said, being 5 years into a conversation when a guy is only 5 minutes into it doesn't cut it. Making assumptions that YOU are going to be together 5 years from now annoys a guy. Don't presume to say for a man where he will be or whom he will be with in the future.
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