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2:49
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Does size matter?  Why are men so comfortable with nudity, they just strip and strut around whether they have a six pack or pot belly, ashy skin, bad legs, unshaved or shaved "Jordo"? Why do some TV channels insist on airing programs/movies that are not family friendly as early as 8pm with nudity and cursing? Come to think of it is it just me or do most cartoons have an adult theme? Why do some women feel a need to flirt with bus conductors so as to either not pay fare or pay half of the require amount, Is it really necessary even in the name of cutting costs? Why do some men hate on women driving big cars always assuming(loudly) that they are mistresses or driving daddy's car or boyfriend's car and even if so, then what? In this day and age, why would one feel a deep need to flash his/her business card/title all in bid to get some attention. How about trying to develop some conversation skills? Most of the men i know will pick up the cheque or go dutch which is good either way, that i can handle. Abeg you explain the breed of men who just sit there and wait for women to pay and no they wont do dutch either! Do people generally realize that there is a difference between making love and having sex? When you buy someone a gift or treat them to something,do you realize that the receiver owes you nothing but gratitude.In the event that you want more kindly let the term and conditions/fine print be known sooner than later. Why do i always need a holiday to recover from my holiday? Why do we as women set such low standards for men?
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4:07
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Modo tagged me and i got this off Queen. I broke the rules and did it twice.I wont tag but feel free to do your thing. MEME Rules: 1. Put Your iTunes/ music player on Shuffle 2. For each question, press the next button to get your answer. 3. YOU MUST WRITE THAT SONG NAME DOWN NO MATTER WHAT!!! After you’ve answered all of the questions, tag 5 other people and then let them know they’ve been tagged to do the meme themselves! IF SOMEONE SAYS “IS THIS OKAY” YOU SAY? 1721-Bach/Minuet and Badinerie(from Ochestral suite no.2 in B minor) Love is on our side again -Julio Iglesias WHAT WOULD BEST DESCRIBE YOUR PERSONALITY? As time goes by -Julio Iglesias(Casablanca Soundtrack). I will always love you-Dolly Parton WHAT DO YOU LIKE IN A GUY/GIRL? Dont fall in love with a dreamer- Kenny Rogers Losambo-Extra Musica HOW DO YOU FEEL TODAY? S.O.S-Eddie Levert Sr & Gerald Levert (its cold, for real) Twisted-Keith Sweat WHAT IS YOUR LIFE’S PURPOSE? Emergency- The whispers Never too much-Luther Vandross WHAT IS YOUR MOTTO? 1796 Beethoven: minuet in G Brisa-Poncho Sanchez WHAT DO YOUR FRIENDS THINK OF YOU? Red Light spells danger- Billy Ocean Doo bee Doo-Freshly Ground WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOUR PARENTS? Beat of my heart-Jake Shimabukuro Hey now- Carl Thomas WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT VERY OFTEN? A situation-Eddie Levert Sr & Gerald Levert obsession- Tito Puente WHAT IS 2+2? Careless Love- Bessie Smith I fix my eyes on you-Tommy Walker WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOUR BEST FRIEND? Baby making hips- Fantasia How come how long- Babyface WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THE PERSON YOU LIKE? Beautiful- Meshell Ndegeocello In the rain-Xcape WHAT IS YOUR LIFE STORY? Soy Un truhan Soy un Senor- Julio Iglesias Nathalie-Julio Iglesias WHAT DO YOU WANT TO BE WHEN YOU GROW UP? Black and Proud- James Brown Forse la soglia antisse-Luciano Pavarotti WHAT DO YOU THINK WHEN YOU SEE THE PERSON YOU LIKE? Tell me something good-Chaka Khan & Rufus Twist and Shout-Chaka Demus & Pliers WHAT DO YOUR PARENTS THINK OF YOU? Love is on the way- Dave Koz Lush Life-John Coltrane WHAT WILL YOU DANCE TO AT YOUR WEDDING? M appari- Luciano Pavarotti I am Qualified to Satisfy you-Barry White WHAT WILL THEY PLAY AT YOUR FUNERAL? Ndichu-Kamaru My way- Elvis Presley WHAT IS YOUR HOBBY/INTEREST? When i said i do- Kenny Latimore Reason for breathing- Babyface WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST SECRET? Don't know why- Kenny G Body Talk-Lemar WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOUR FRIENDS? Demu Wangu- Mangweair Practice what you preach-Carlos Santana WHAT SHOULD YOU POST THIS AS? Temptation-P square Good Enough-Bobby Brown
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3:42
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First things first, Congratulations on your big day, am so proud of you. You know i really wanted to be there in person to cheer you on and as usual get you into trouble. Am sure you know by now if i had anything to do with it i would be there every weekend if not everyday. Today especially as has been this weekend i miss you more than usual, hanging out with you, making trouble with you, the controversies, the dares, the quiet times, the long talks, that reassuring hug, the music and dancing.
Thank you for your friendship, being there even for the late night calls about nothing, allowing me to derail you, taking care of me, hospitality, being straight with me, raising the bar each time and much much more. See you soon.
Best Always,
FL-K :-*
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1:33
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 For some reason, i have been feeling all smug and happy, pretty much like the cat who ate the canary(which is debatable). The month of May was great and if it keeps up like this then this will be a good year. Today especially am feeling very happy, NO am not in love in fact am still on BT, yet am happy with where i am in my life. So everything is not perfect but am learning to be happy with what i have while i reach for what i want. Nothing can ruin this feeling and am going to cling on to it for as long as i can. Happy day to you all.
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6:58
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I decided to take last Friday off seeing that Thursday was labor day hence left me with four days to bum and goof off. I did manage to participate in one of those conversations *smh*... It was said that for any woman to keep her man she has to be strict with him. Apparently, men need to be chaperoned to ensure good behavior. Supposedly this is meant to explain why some women want to know where their man is, who he is with, what they are doing and what time he will be home.
In my opinion, if your partner wants to cheat on you no amount of chaperoning will prevent them from doing it. The person will find opportunity in the strangest of places and do it. I would like to believe at the point in time we are dating, you know what you want.Secondly, should a time come and you feel that i no longer meet the criteria you should have the decency to let me know so that we can call it quits. This thing of recruiting his boys or his boys' girlfriends to look out for you is pure gas. My ma says that you should know when to stay and fight and when to walk away. I am assuming that at the point where i launch inquisitions into your whereabouts, doings and recruit spies, it means i don't trust you. Without trust there is no relationship, this is one of the pillars to any relationship. If that is the way to keep a man hallo spinsterhood just because there is some stunts i just wont do.
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6:51
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Being alone is a state of ecstasy
Being alone is a quiet orgasm
Being alone is like the sound of silence
Being alone is making one side of the bed
Being alone is arguing with yourself in the mirror
Being alone is not seeing yourself in the mirror
Being alone can become a permanent state
Being alone does not disappoint
Being alone allows you to explore your inner self
-Allan James Saywell
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5:50
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The past couple of weeks had me in a reflective mood.One of the things i have learnt it that in the blink of an eye life can change and never be the same again. I have learnt that every decision and choice counts though sadly we sometimes have to them in the a split second or take as long as we need. See some decisions are so routine that we don't think of the impact that the have on our life. I don't understand how something so routine, same choice made over and over again then the one day you choose differently all hell breaks loose. I have learnt that there is no decision that shouldn't be thought through and consequences weighed no matter how big or small.
In the same time, i have known what it is for someone to give you their love and show it with no reservations. I have seen love in action, seldom said but shown not in a bid to impress me but just because it is felt and because the person derives the pleasure from it. I have wished and prayed to be able to requite such unmeasurable love yet i couldn't feel anything besides immense nolstagia and deep friendship. I have taken time to think and rethink the pros and cons. My Ma says that in considering forever with someone, true friendship outweighs love any day. I don't remember the last time i prayed to God so much for wisdom so as to make the right choice as well as a sign to say yes, no or wait. The decision made all the more difficult by history (cant believe i have known you for 5 years already) and knowing that you are most of the things i pray for in a mate. Then despite all, knowing that i have to let you go since its not fair to you believing that if you are mine you will be back.
I have rediscovered the pleasure of spending time alone, just chilling or with a good book. Sometimes in the still of the night, just to lay still and let thoughts run through the mind. At the same time, realized the pleasure of good company-easy conversation late into the night, silly jokes, sound advice, the sharing and catching up, endless bottles of wine and munchies, soccer and movies, the fights and all. Knowing when to be silent and listen as well as the joys of sharing.
Spirituality, the very essence of me that i promised to work on this year. I have learnt how to pray not necessarily by kneeling, hands clasped and all but by having constant conversation with God though out my day. In the process, i am transformed into a woman that am loving more everyday. I have learnt to be thankful. I was going through my journal and i realized that i have lot of answered prayers. Some prayers i wish hadn't been answered yet others am grateful that they were. Still am growing steadily, mending my relationship with God in the hope that through that the rest will be mended as well.
I have made peace with the past, knowing very well how far i have come and all the things that have transpired. Some secrets that i will go to the grave with while others that need time to heal and others already healed. Transgressions forgiven and forgotten, others requiring a bit more grace.
It has also been a time when my eyes have been opened to a few issues i was blissfully ignorant. Funny how some friendships don't take lot of effort, i could like not talk to you for long yet when i call you are there just as i am there when you need me and its like we were always together. Friendships, company evaluated and re-evaluated.
Looking forward, a lot of changes ahead, all in name of self improvement and growing up. One small step many more to go...
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4:20
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Gitts tagged me so i copied this off Kenyan Gay. 1. Taken a picture completely naked? half naked and promptly erased. 2. Made out with a friend on your MySpace/Facebook page? My ex was on hi5, does that count? 3. Danced in front of your mirror naked? No 4. Told a lie? couple of times 5. Had feelings for someone who didn't have them back? yeah 6. Been arrested? twice;(no seatbelt and alleged drunk & disorderly) 7. Made out with someone of the same sex? No. 8. Seen someone die? no. 9. Slept in until 5pm? yes, when sick and a few years back. 10. Had sex at work? no. 11. Fallen asleep at work/school? at least twice a month 12. Held a snake? no 13. Ran a red light? am not sure 14. Been suspended from school? almost doesn't count 15. Totaled your car in an accident? which car? 16. Pole danced? do imaginary poles count 17. Smoked? Used to. 18. Been fired from a job? no 19. Sang karaoke? under drink and peer influence 20. Done something you told yourself you wouldn't? who hasn't 21. Laughed until a drink came out your nose? yes 22. Caught a snowflake on your tongue? will try next time it snows in Nairobi. 23. Kissed in the rain? Hmm, does a shower count 24. Sang in the shower? sometimes 25. Given your private parts a nickname? just the twins 26. Ever gone out without underwear? quite comfortable if you must know 27. Sat on a roof top? yes after watching, set it off. 28. Played chicken? yes sometimes 29. Been pushed into a pool with all your clothes on? Yeah, twice almost drowned, can't swim. 30. Broken a bone? no 31. Mooned/flashed someone? Nope 32. Shaved your head? not since 1995 33. Slept naked? often. 34. Played a prank on someone? a few times 35. Had a gym membership? not any more 36. Felt like killing someone? been a while 37. Made your girlfriend/boyfriend cry? no at least not in my presence 38. Cried over someone you were in love with? enough times 39. Had sex more than 10 times in one day? yeah once 40. Had Mexican jumping beans for pets? no pets for me 41. Been in a band? watching them maybe 42. Subscribed to Maxim? no 43. Taken more than 10 shots of alcohol? is this a trick question? 44. Shot a gun? no 45. Had sex today? No and not inthe near future. 46. Played strip poker? Yes eerrr no details 47. Tripped on mushrooms? No 48. Donated blood? done it and always willing 49. Videotaped yourself having sex? muhahahaha 50. Eaten alligator meat? Yes 51. Ever jump out of an airplane? Not yet. 52. Have you been to more than 10 countries? 4 and counting 53. Ever wanted to have sex with a platonic friend? Want yes, done it Heck no.
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7:07
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I have been looking for words to say something that is threatening to consume me. Ella Fitzgerald's "you go to my head" comes close only difference is that there is a good possibility that it could happen. Till i figure this out all i know is ...
You go to my head and you linger like a haunting refrain
And I find you spinning 'round in my brain
Like the bubbles in a glass of champagne
You go to my head like a sip of sparkling Burgundy brew
And I find the very mention of you
Like the kicker in a julep or two
The thrill of the thought that you might give a thought to my plea
Cast a spell over me Still I say to myself get a hold of
yourself Can't you see that it never can be
You go to my head with a smile that makes my temperature
rise Like a summer with a thousand Julies
You intoxicate my soul with your eyes
Though I'm certain that this heart of mine
Hasn't a ghost of a chance in this crazy romance
You go to my head
You go to my head
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5:15
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Hands needed for ointment application, doctor's recommendation " get a man to rub your back and for small talk".
Location: Lower back to Neck strictly.
Qualities: Strong, soft, short nails, firm palm, size not an issue.
Duration: Every morning and evening for 5 days.
Apply via the comments section.
AOB: Dentists and gynecologists should not be allowed to have big hands. Enuf Sed!
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6:08
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The Rules:
- Link to the person that tagged you.
- Post the rules on your blog.
- Share six non-important things/habits/quirks about yourself.
- Tag six random people at the end of your post by linking to their blogs.
- Let each random person know they have been tagged by leaving a comment on their website.
Moja: Iam my own ms.Fix-it literally and actually enjoy it sadly i cant wash my own hair properly so have to go to a salon.
Mbili: I am get along with men very easily, as a result 99% of my friends are male.This is good and not so good at times esp when dating.
Tatu: I don't know how to ask for help as well as depend on someone. I prefer to handle my own issues myself, i hate being disappointed.
Nne:I don't care much for chocolate, flowers, candy and PDA.
Tano: It takes time for me to walk away from friendships and relationships but when i do i hardly look back. Funny though still consider them as friends.
Sita: I love to dance and i dance to anything as long as there is a beat and rhythm.
By the powers vested in me i tag everyone who is on my blogroll and hasnt posted six yet. Get to work ;)
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9:04
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-Brought on by "In a Sentimental Mood- John Coltrane & Duke Ellington."
Love, these four letters have brought more people together as much as split them. I know Valentine's over but i got to thinking after all this time shouldn't i at least know enough about love. My dad says "there is no love expert". No matter how long or many you love, each person is different. I keep thinking like with work experience, shouldn’t you be able to say what you can and can’t do plus what you are willing to learn on the job. Love, lust, passion, romance, sex all these are just what they are love, lust, passion, romance and sex, each individual has their own “formula” for satisfaction. It is one thing to fall in love another to stay in love which would explain “I love him but am not in love with him”. Funny how when we are in love our tolerance for that person suddenly increases and we are often willing to compromise.
Heard about a lady whose honeymoon was without “bumping uglies” and she was wondering whether it was a sign of trouble ahead. So, when did sex and love become justification for the other? The reason given was maybe because they we already “bumping” prior to the nuptials then maybe that’s why. That brings me to the belief that familiarity causes people to take things for granted. For some people seems that the longer you are together the lazier you both are to explore possibilities until its just routine. Then instead of staying because you are happy you count the number of years you been together, still easier said than done.
At the end of each relationship/relation/fling/clande/arrangement you name it we all have a list of lessons learnt that we swear by with greater emphasis on the dont's. Sadly it only gets complicated with age, clearly this is one area where practice just wont make perfect. I figure the goal is to be true to yourself and have a good time else for me its just not worth it.
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6:11
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In the name of all that is red, Happy Valentines to you all seeing that its the season to be flowery in language and literally, in love(real or imagined), proposals and getting off the BT ;).Tis also the only time that irrational things are legally blamed on love. In the past years i have advocated for the crucifixion of the naked baby, this year am indifferent, i just don't care. Happy Birthday to Daktari, wishing you many blessings and thanks for always being there. Aside: Catwalq aka Lagba-Jess Get well soonest, chin up me dear. 
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8:19
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To start the love week allow me to share with you a song that i really love. Its "Niwe Wako Milele (Be yours forever) by Nikki. To no one in particular but go ahead and enjoy.
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8:40
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9:10
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Yesterday,
All my troubles seemed so far away,
Now it looks as though they're here to stay,
Oh, I believe in yesterday.
Suddenly,
I'm not half the man I used to be,
There's a shadow hanging over me,
Oh, yesterday came suddenly.
I am not sure what i feel, sometimes am sad,then am angry then helpless but mostly overwhelmed. I have had this feelings for the past week or so and from the look of things i had better figure something out real quick. Stuff normally doesn't get me to tears as easily as it is doing now. I feel like i have a million thoughts going through my mind coupled with an endless fast growing to-do list. Towards the end of last week, i was sure that if i could get away if only for a while then maybe i could devise a plan. Now whenever i sleep i keep waking up with fright and have strange incoherent dreams. Then they started a fight where my family is at, its hard to talk to my daddy who is down playing it(i know he is protecting me)and then get the real deal from my siblings. Arrggghhh am so fed up. Still its not been all cloudy, i must thank all the amazing people who have asked about me and my fam (Akiey '07). Others who have made me smile and forget if only for a moment. Yeah even you too who didn't know what to say, am grateful maybe when i can i will talk to someone. I feel like am going down but at least am looking up.
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8:50
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From epoems.org
I want an infusion of your knowledge
I want to converse with you from moon to moon
I want to know what your desires are
I want to understand your listening
I want to eat your calmness
I want to hum in the key of your music
I want to feel the folds of your clothing
I want to know how things are joined together for you and how set apart
I want to taste the inside of your shell
I want to see how Fibonacci works for you
I want to hold with tenderness your secret tragedies
I want to make you realise what you didn’t know you knew
I want to move you to tears
I want you to be glad of the tears I move you to
I want you to give me the courage to be unreasonable
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7:19
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Just what is it that attracts you to a potential partner?
From ivenus.com
We've all done it. You catch sight of him across a crowded pub, your heart skips a beat and you elbow your girlfriend and say, "Look at him!"
Your girlfriend looks at him and says, "You mean the one with the ginger hair and the ears like one of the Seven Dwarfs? The one with the bandy legs?"
"That's the one," you say, as you gaze at him and go weak in the knees.
She looks at you sideways and wonders how many pints of plonk you've drunk. "He doesn't do anything for me," she says.
So here you are at the mysterious beginning of that difficult relationship business. When you first set eyes on a person, in one-tenth of a second you make a lot of snap judgements - judgements that you are not even aware you're making. Unknowingly, you already have a deeply held 'what is beautiful is good' stereotype.
We irrationally favour good-looking people. This is great for them, of course, but choosing a potential partner in one-tenth of a second based solely on their looks is not necessarily good for your relationship. Alan Feingold, a psychologist at Yale University, combined the results of 30 studies that examined who we stereotypically found physically attractive. People who were considered more attractive were seen as more sociable, dominant, sexually warm, mentally healthy and intelligent. They were not, however, rated highly on honesty, genuineness, sincerity, trustworthiness, morality or kindness - which says something!
Obviously, as you get to know someone over time his true personality reveals itself. But at the first encounter, physical appearance is one of the only pieces of information you have to go on, and you make very quick, dangerous, unconscious judgements at this point - judgements which can't always be trusted. How accurate are first impressions? In Feingold's study, attractiveness turned out to bear no relation to intelligence or personality. So why do we make such snap judgements? Why is it we keep making so many (often incorrect) judgements on the basis of that first weak-kneed glance? Psychologists think we do this in an attempt to make the world more orderly and predictable. When you meet someone for the first time, you feel the need to get a quick grip on what they're like so you know how to deal with them.
Sexual attraction
On top of the physical attractiveness is the gut feeling of sexual attraction for your man across the pub. Why do you feel that first sexual tug? American psychologist John Money thinks we develop a unique subliminal guide to our ideal partner. He calls it a 'lovemap'. This guide consists of a list of cues that trigger feelings of sexual arousal in us - things like the shape of a mouth, a knobbly nose, big blue eyes, a particular walk or a rumbling laugh. The more of our individual choice of cues a person has, the more likely we are to feel sexually attracted to him.
What determines what our cues will be? Money says that they will be things that have been linked in the past with feelings of sexual arousal. If your first love was a sandy-haired, brown-eyed man with a Galway accent and he happened to be a fireman, then ever afterwards you may be sexually aroused by sandy-haired firemen from Galway. Lovemaps are also built up from childhood and pretty well set by the time you are a teenager. Some psychologists think that people may choose a partner who looks like one of their parents or, interestingly, like themselves. This is because they create a sense of familiarity or security, which makes it easier for them to become sexually aroused.
Lovemaps do not become entirely fixed in cement when you are young - they can change and be added to throughout your life. If, say, you have a passionate affair in your 50s with a man who has bushy eyebrows, bushy eyebrows may well make their way into your lovemap.
So, according to your lovemap, what has your ginger-haired man got to offer you?
Ginger hair: Your first lover had hair just that shade. He was kind and funny and you had a great time, even though things didn't work out.
Bandy legs: At school you had an almighty crush on the head boy. You often used to get a fine view of his muscular, bandy legs as he powered down the rugby field.
Ears like dinghy sails: On holiday in Spain you had a passionate encounter with a man whose ears could have guaranteed victory in any yacht race.
So what happens when your ginger-haired, bandy-legged man catches sight of you? Let's assume that when he sees your dark hair, stocky legs, mischievous green eyes and slightly lopsided smile, they fit his lovemap. He also may have been more affected than you are by your general level of physical attractiveness because research shows that, when choosing whom to date, physical attractiveness is more important to men than to women.
On the whole, people tend to choose partners of roughly the same level of attractiveness as themselves (unless, of course, a significantly less attractive partner, such as Donald Trump, has something heavy to compensate with, such as money and power). This is because we all want the most attractive person we think we can get, but if we aren't very attractive (or think we aren't), then we won't aim too high and risk rejection. So you'll usually end up with someone at about your own level.
Let's assume that your ginger-haired man has made his way across the pub to start a conversation, and initial signs are favourable. You find things to talk about, and a rapid survey of the basics reveals that he isn't noticeably more unintelligent than you, 50 years older than he looks, or just out of prison for armed robbery. The fact is that you tend to pair up with people roughly similar to yourself in terms of age, intelligence, interests, education and social background. Obviously, there are exceptions, but any wide disparities - in age, for instance - are risk factors for relationship break-up.
Deceiving yourself
Be wary. In this pre-beginning stage of a relationship, you are perfectly capable of a lot of self-deception. The trouble is that, once you have your theories about the ginger-haired man in place (and you can do this frighteningly quickly), you tend to look only for supporting evidence. This means you ignore evidence that contradicts your beliefs about the potential partner, and you may refuse to see his faults clearly.
Consider this situation. After you accept your second slice of chocolate cheesecake at a dinner party, he announces: "She eats like she's trying for the Guinness Book of Records," and everyone, including you, laughs. Instead of thinking, "I don't think it's nice to humiliate me or taunt me about my appetite in public just for a laugh," you think, "What a wit he is!" This is an example of self-deception in the early stages of a relationship.
There are other warning signs that you might refuse to see - signs that indicate he may not be as over the moon about you as you are about him. For example, he says he'll phone tomorrow and doesn't. He says, "Sorry, terribly busy. Crisis with the Hong Kong branch." You choose to believe him, squashing the nagging thought that, if he was wild about you, a 30-second call to tell you he had a crisis and couldn't talk wouldn't have killed him. Another warning sign in this stage of the relationship is if he makes remarks along the lines of:
"Marriage? It's for sissies."
"I'm planning a round-the-world trip next year with my ex-girlfriend."
"Aine's moved in with John - what an eejit he is!"
Such comments, even if made early in the relationship, reveal something about his attitude to commitment. Don't ignore them.
So at the very beginning of a relationship lies a great yawning pit. You are not only overcome with lust for someone who may or may not be a suitable partner, but you have made all sorts of character judgements that may or may not be true. Some will be judgements that your girlfriends might make too; others may be the result of your personal lovemap. The thing to remember is to reserve judgement about his suitability until you have real evidence, based on his real personality.
Making judgements of any kind on sight is always a risky business. It's a good idea to learn how to put off your first impressions until you can gather more sufficient information about him. Of course, it's not a good idea to wait until a perfect, fault-free male comes along (there aren't any; you'll be waiting until the sun goes nova). The point is that it is vitally important to see clearly what his faults actually are.
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1:51
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 Approx. 300 people killed, 250,000 people without homes, there couldnt be a better time to say Chagua Amani Zuia Noma. True to Eric Wainaina's Kenya Only this is my home, after all is said and done we have to make it work. God bless and help us all. May peace prevail.
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1:19
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Another Christmas, another end of year. Zero Seven has been a good one for me all round in terms of answered prayers. Even in those answered prayers some answers have been hard to swallow seeing that they are not exactly what I had in mind and would have preferred to wait than hear no!
Growing up I always had a strained relationship with my Mum yet with age that seems to be healing itself. She has prayed me through so many things and situations like mwendwa among many others. I have come to understand and admire her greatly. I see her image and influence in me and i know that am blessed. I will always be daddy’s girl no matter what. I have always looked at him through rose colored glasses yet this year I have learnt that he is also human. My parents are to me my greatest blessing, granted that it has not always been rosy but with age a lot of their actions and words make sense. With that there is lot of forgiveness, appreciation and love. Am thankful for my siblings plus in-laws who became family and made an auntie out of me. Tis true that we had hard times adjusting but as was clear the other day we are now family. Without you all I wouldn’t have the place I call home, the support, the love, the encouragement and above all the prayers.
While I have made a lot of friends (in person and online), with the New Year I pray that I can rekindle some of friendships that due to lack of communication have slumped into a coma. I have met bloggers that I now call friends (see blog roll) from the carribean, naijabloggers and my peoples (Kenya). Funny how through reading your blogs and the endless chat I have come to know you and share with you more than I ever thought possible. Now I have loads friends I am yet to meet, thank you for sharing my life. For all the lurkers and good Anons am sure all bloggers will agree with me, thank you.
Careerwise, a lot of movements way better than the last year and '08 looks even better. Still got faith that in '08 i can get schooling.
My relationship with God has come long way we are getting along better. Still I feel there is a lot more to be done with regards to my consistency yet in the New Year I have hope that it can only get better. I know for sure without God am nothing, so all glory and honor to Him.
Lastly, to someone who gets most of me and has made it better. Looking forward to greater heights of friendship.
How has yours been?
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1:54
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I consider myself as a very open minded person, i always give a person the chance to say their piece. Then again there are a few special cases. My basic assumption is that before you walk up to me unleash your vibe you have thought it through or at least have an idea of what to say. Why then do you feel a pressing need telling me your financial worth while all i know is your name. Is that meant to help your chances with me? I know i look young and also that for some women that might work but come on cut me some slack. Is that it, thats all you have to offer? Oh sorry this must be the part where i get very impressed? Whatever happened to personality,wooing or just conversation about everything else apart from you. I must admit that there are still men in this town that you hang out with and at the end you are sad that the evening ended, then there are those that i wonder if it wouldn't have been better had i stayed and watched some lip-synced-Soap Opera. I am not saying that am the perfect date all am saying is that i try my best and you should too otherwise why then are we here.
Come to think of it my sis and i agree that by and large i attract very special men:-
MBAs(Married but Available): I have seen karma at work. These for me are out of bounds i just don't do married. No thanks, i don't need to be "taken care" of.
Older(read 33+)Single men looking to settle down who are in a rush to beat the deadline.
Foreigners, not that its a bad thing but lets be real you are here for a while there is no way to vouch that you don't have mamawatoto(3N 07)back home.
They say you have to kiss a few frogs before you get to prince charming, exactly how many is a few? In that line of thought forget prince charming and give me a man who can at least hold a conversation, well groomed, treats me with respect and we will work out the rest. Despite all i still have faith, there are a few good ones left.
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1:56
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 I love this man with every fiber of my being,with everything that i am. I would die for him yes i know its a little extreme but for him nothing is. You have been my friend the one who has demanded more out of me and inspired me to be what am now. I am always welcome and can call you without necessarily having something to tell you just to tease you or to tell you mundane details about my day. I have you to thank for my love of sports despite our countless Man u Vs Arsenal(me) debates.I love the way we stay up to talk and watch wrestling/ movies or talk politics. By the way i will bring him home just give me time to make sure that he is the one. For your support,prayers, love, friendship and for being the best dad a gal can ask for.To my numero uno man in my life, now and always Happy birthday daddy.May God Bless you and keep you. I love you. (Ol' Skool way)Dedicate: Song for dad by Keith Urban. Aside: Modo shares a birthday with Daddy dearest tommorow. Happy birthday and thanks for being a good friend and yes the Waragi is on the way. Many happy returns and God's blessings.
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9:17
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 Last Thursday my ex-mwendwa lost his mum and had to travel on the worst journey a child ever has to make to bury his/her mother. When i got the news it felt like i had lost my mum too i guess must be because i knew so much about her, your plans and ambitions for her. Through it all you have remained the pillar for your sis who saw it all. I admire that and seeing that i have said very little this i my small way of letting you know that you have my support, prayers and you are both in my thoughts. Tomorrow will be difficult day as we all escort her to her resting place and my prayers are with you even more. We(my friends and I) will always be here for you. When the perishable has been clothed with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality, then the saying that is written will come true: "Death has been swallowed up in victory." "Where, O death, is your victory? Where, O death, is your sting?" (1 Corinthians 15:54-55).
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0:35
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Claimer:I got this on my hi5. Still don't have answer for him yet i figure you will give me tips or at least learn and laugh. You know what to do after the three dots, leave a comment. Edits italicized.
YOU"re the kind of lady i am searching for.How wuld you feel to have a man that will cheerish you, feel you, share you happiness and sadness all the time. A man that will be there to give you all you want, satisfy your wildest desire, touch you were no man has ever touched.
Treat you like he's queen. Devot his time and attention to please you when neccessary.
A man that will share your dreams and build up your hope and aspirations together.A soulmate, partner and friend.
The love that you've searched for.
I'm here with my hands wide open to welcome you into my own very sweet world.
You're such a beautiful and adorable sweet looking lady, any man will fall for.
My name is Oga, i am 32yrs old, fair in complexion and 6ft tall, handsome. Inteligent, loving and romantic sweet young man.I am the kind of man any woman will desire to be with.I've all it takes to please a woman, the heart and the love.
I am self employed, an artist. I live in Lagos-Nigeria.
At my leisure time I love to play basketball, painting , swimming and
rugby, have a nice time in a cool atmosphere, go to the beech, watch movies.
I'm a very highly sensitive person, I'm as well considerate and conscious.I mind how i treat people, I'm cautious.I work very hard .
I love to kiss and cuddle, I like being in a romantic mood, cos i am too I don't really say I've bad habits. I'm a very fun- loving person, kind and like to assist people. I'm not very perfect, I've my faults but I'm a good listener and I adhere to instructions and corrections
I like to be in good moods, I hate to do things that will make me unhappy
And i only seek for matured and responsible sweet looking lady, with good head and ready to settle down.I'm a Christian, I love the things of God and I believe in his faith.
I'm still single and searching for that virtuous, caring and romantic woman who'll be my partner, friend, lover and wife in the very possible time.
I'm a kind of man any woman will desire to have, I'm not the best man but I try to be the best, that's my goal. I promise to give the very best to the woman after my heart.
You can reach me on email adress or call cellphone numbers Feel free to holla te me and tell me what you feel about me...
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0:57
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 One of the commandments of good relations is "don't judge a book by the cover" and i broke it. Then i spent some time with you and realized there's is really more to you. Am glad that we both took time, looking forward to greater heights of friendship. And to think that i almost lost this opportunity. Lesson learnt.
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6:38
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My heart swells with pride for these three especially: ![]() Luke Kibet Marathon Gold. About time we brought it back home. ![]() Janet Jepkosgei aka Nairobi Express, Maria twas real. ![]() Catherine the Great you bring tears to my eyes. The prayers after you finish and the women who always meet you at the airport with the Kikuyu songs. In moment like this politics aside am more than proudly Kenyan. God bless this great country and its people wherever they maybe.
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1:57
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 My sunshine has come And there's no more rain in this cloud Spring has come and winter's gone Not afraid because the seasons have changed I'm gonna count my blessing then just follow the sun -Angie Stone.
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1:36
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 First of all must go Your scent upon my pillow And then I'll say goodbye to your whispers in my dreams. And then our lips will part In my mind and in my heart, Cos your kiss Went deeper than my skin. Piece by piece is how I'll let go of you Kiss by kiss Will leave my mind one at a time One at a time First of all must fly, My dreams of you and I, There's no point of holding on to those And then our ties will break, For your and my own sake, Just remember, This is what you chose Piece by piece Is how I'll let go of you Kiss by kiss, will leave my mind one at a time One at a time I'll shed like skin, Our memories of lazy days, And fade away the shadow of your face Piece by piece Is how I'll let go of you Kiss by kiss, Will leave my mind one at a time One at a time One at a time One at a time Katie Melua
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6:36
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They dated for a year. On Friday, she sent an SOS and came over. I offered wine and she declined that was strange i know my girl she never turns down liquor. I made her tea instead and got my wine. I asked her how is baba and she laughed then sighed.
She: mamie am pregnant".
Me: Ok, what does baba think about the whole thing?
She: he said "Woman,sort yourself out, am confused"
ME: then?
She: He hasn't called and when i call him he wont answer.
What is wrong with some men,of course you knew when you were stroking that this might happen. Confused, sort myself out? Whatever happened to confessions of undying love and forever. These are the worthless men who give good men a bad name!
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3:30
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 They (don't ask who just go with the flow) say it takes 30 days to form a new habit. I need to replace a few habits. Here goes day one, so far so good.*thinking to self* maybe i should do a before and after
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23:51
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First, happy new month. The last six weeks have been an emotional roller coaster yet i chose to hang on. In the same period i have prayed more than ever and by prayer not kneeling more like all the time under my breath to God for guidance and wisdom. I asked God to show me a sign, i felt that He took so long and maybe my prayers were bouncing back i enlisted the support of my mother who in turn asked my dad and siblings in. They all didn't know what was going on but they kept at it asking that i be granted wisdom, guidance and strength. I think i have known the answer for a while but just didn't want to believe it since it wasn't what i was expecting and God has showed me signs that i chose to ignore for the same reason.Last night the answer came loud and clear.First i panicked then called Ma and after talking i was filled with peace and a sense of relief. I then got this feeling that sometimes we are too keen asking for God to open doors and maybe what we should be asking is that He closes some doors. Yet some doors have opened too wider than i ever thought.
I don't like the person that i am when am with you. I let myself become the kind of woman i have always prayed not to be yet still i have learnt that am still optimistic and discovered that i am at the end of the day a great person. Maybe i should be sad and hurt that we can no longer be but i cant help but feel relieved that we no longer are. Does this mean that it was all in my head? I must admit that i have learnt a lot from and do know where to draw the line. All the same am glad you came my way.
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4:13
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Tagged by Aco so here goes:-
1. Where is your cell phone:On the table
2. Relationship: enjoying every bit.
3. Your hair:braided.
4. Work:new challenges, loving it.
5. Your sisters: 4 by blood couple by friendship.
6. Your favorite things: Books, cuddles, strokes, liquor, family,music, friends, traveling just a few...
7. Your dream last night:too busy no dreams
8. Your favorite drink:Tusker Malt,Sambucca, Fresh juice
9. Your dream car:Range Rover TD6, Toyota Hilux SR5
10. The room you’re in:loads of nice music
11. Your shoes: not enough
12. Your fears: death of a loved one.
13. What do you want to be in 10 years:a mile from here.
14. Who did you hang out with this weekend:camping with mwendwa
15. What are you not good at: Asking for help
16. Muffins? some from Lavazza coffee house
17. Wish-list item: digital camera
18. Where you grew up: Naivasha
19. The last thing you did: talk to mwendwa
20. What are you wearing: pants,sweater,shirt,bra,shoes,watch,string.
21. What are you not wearing:hmmmm
22. Your favorite pet:dont do pets.
23. Your computer:full of music and downloads
24. Your life:great
25. Your mood: grateful
26. Missing:baby sister in boarding
27. What are you thinking about:mwendwa's departure
28. Your dream location:Carribean
29. Your Ex:Married and still chasing.
30. Your Favorite Item:my phone
31. Your favorite color:red, orange and blue
32. Last time you laughed:this morning
33. Last time you cried:whenever my folks call.
34. School:Can’t wait to go back.
35. Love:is a verb.
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3:09
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Tagged by PrettylyfThe Rules are:- 1. We have to post these rules before we give you the facts. 2. Players start with eight random facts/habits about themselves. 3. People who are tagged need to write their own blog about their eight things and post these rules. 4. At the end of your blog post, you need to choose eight people to get tagged and list their names. 5. Don’t forget to leave them a comment telling them they’re tagged, and to read your blog. Island Spice's 8 were a great read and juicy too.Here goes, 1. I don't know how to just show up at people's houses i have to call in advance to confirm that its okay for me to come over. Its so bad that i call my folks to let them know that i will be coming over. 2. I love being alone i can spend time alone without feeling the need for company. I sometimes will go out clubbing, to the movies or even functions alone plus the ability to just make random decisions on what next without having to refer to someone else. 3. I will normally take your word for it so that i expect that when you say you will do something you will and if you cant you will let me know in advance that you cant. A little naive but that's me. 4. I pray that i get married just so that i don't grow old alone, i admire how my folks just hang out the two of the them now that the nest is empty. While at it i would rather marry my friend since i think sometimes love is not enough. 5. I love to read if i could quit my job, be a professional student and have my bills sorted i would do it. I love school and books don't think i can get enough hence my going back to school and having my doctorate at 30( God willing). 6. Of men: I love older men(>=30 young;used to love and date foreigners just not white something about going black then one homeboy, been home since bla bla bla. 7. I believe in God and love going to church. I believe that then my Ma prays it will happen and will often call her asking she prays about something or the other. 8. I can be bossy, mwendwa can attest to that, but am working on it. By the powers vested in me i tag *drum roll* - Aegeus
- Archer
- Auntie Richie
- Kymmbr
- La Cubana Gringa
- Modo
- Supaflyshi
- Unyc
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7:33
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 I have a 4-day weekend ahead seeing that am not working tomorrow and Monday so as to attend to some matters. Despite the cold weather, the sun shineth once again.Errands aside i intend to catch up on sleep,bum and yes my mwendwa is home Yaay! Have fun Lovely people and yes Blessings.
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0:03
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Tomorrow, we hit the terrible twos. Hard to believe that its already been two years of blogging,blog-hoing, meet ups et al. First, Gish and i wish to thank all those who have taken time to comment and/or lurk. Secondly, we are ever so grateful to the friends we have made(anaa post). Thank you for taking time.
I lashed out and hurt two people badly.Unfortunately both have no idea why they were treated the way they were.I have apologized to both and i pray that we can make up. The thought of losing their friendship is driving me nuts and makes me so sad. Aint no sunshine.
AOB: The new Psys Westlands is looking good. Location, where Midas used to be Unga house.Happy weekend people.
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6:46
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by Karen C Vanderlaan
sometimes, life is just tough.....
I want to run away,
Just be gone – check out
I long to hide away
And bury my head in my hands
To just cry until I am all cried out
Done - no tears left
Cry till all the sad is gone
I wish for long, long hours to sleep
To rise only to return and slip back
between sheets that never cooled
I desire the sleep of no interruption
Till all the exhaustion has lifted
From my heavily laden eyes
But… none of this will I do
I will get up each day the crack of dawn
I will continue the endless motions
That make this life of mine work
Putting one foot in front of the other
Over and over again
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3:14
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 Dunno how to explain this but am just full of jumbled up emotions.I hate this ride, sometimes feeling vulnerable,insecure,unsure and others feeling like the luckiest woman alive.Today am at the bottom. I take friendships very seriously. My close friends i can count on one hand. I have the habit of keeping people at arms length and not getting so attached but when i do its hook, line and sinker. The distance will normally help when i need to walk away, am one of those who when i walk i just keep at it. I hate it when a supposed friend who knows i posses a certain quality exploits it. I will most often take loads of crap, point it out to you to rectify if the said manners persist then i will walk away. I think sometimes its better to leave early than to wait until it is so bad this way there is at least a chance that we can be courteous to each other when we meet. I try my best to be a good friend and get very disappointed when it feels like the effort is one-sided. At this point i will be forced to do a cost-benefit analysis which often results to me counting my losses and aborting the mission. Right now, there's an ongoing audit. I know that should i choose to walk away from this, it will hurt like hell yet part of me is sure that we will be ok.
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0:41
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In the words of Dr. John H. Sklare, knowing if you are in love is easy for some but difficult for others. I also have a strong professional inkling that, since this is a feelings type of question, it’s an issue that we men struggle with more than women do. Let me begin this discussion, however, with a simple statement that I always use to help people think this love question through. I think there are basically two reasons why people are drawn together. If I can be so bold as to greatly oversimplify, it’s either because of want or it’s because of need. In my opinion, relationships based on want are the happiest and most satisfying. Those that are based on need tend to be more emotionally volatile and a lot less gratifying. In short, love is healthiest and at its very best when it is framed around two people who want to be together.
Another issue that makes this difficult arises when one tends to confuse love with lust. There are definitely some tangential elements of love involved in lust, but lust is primarily a physical longing, whereas love is a much deeper and comprehensive emotional experience. In short, l | |
