Blame it on the woman
Father Ambrose Muli,
During your homily you blamed me, the Kenyan woman, for Ngengi and Chege pursuing the desires of their hearts. In your words:
“Women, from the way I see it, have become too complicated and unattractive in marriage. You don’t provide what God intended you to give in marriage. You have frustrated the men so much leading them to trying among themselves whether they will get the joy that comes with marriage.”
While female parishioners chafed at your irresponsible comments, it was but short-lived. I feel more needs to be said lest their discontentment be misconstrued. You did not step on dainty feminine toes. Being the woman that I am, I will not mumble under my breath. I will tell you several truths you may have overlooked in your rushed judgment of womenfolk.
- I will first of all question your cultural competence on erotic love and the institution of marriage. One of the four components of cultural competency is skills. Unless you are breaking a few rules of your employer (God knows there are enough of your colleagues doing it), you have not sexually loved a woman or a man in recent memory. You have not had many erotic experiences and certainly never been married. How then can you describe a perfect marital partner? Your approach to this subject is purely theoretical if not scientific. Erotic love is first hand and intimate. It cannot be reasoned, scientifically measured, weighed or presented in logarithms and other mathematical expressions.
- Blaming women or anybody else for that matter implies there is a situation gone awry and in need of rectification. I don’t quite see it that way. Ngengi and his partner are mature consenting adults who have made their choices. We could argue about what is natural or pull out the vague abomination quotes- Can we also stone the Monica Lewinskys and book appointments with our confessors after eating rabbits and shrimp?
- Chege and Ngengi’s choices had nothing to do with their mothers and or other females around them. I could wear spiked heels with hoochie mama earrings to match and Chege’s libido would be dripping boredom. I could wear black a crotchless thong or grow flowers and strawberries out of my privates and Ngengi would not take a second look at me. How then, have I failed to be the partner God intended me to be? Are men to blame for lesbians too? I see us on a slippery slope headed towards corrective rape.
- Judge not lest ye be judged… ring a bell?
In conclusion, Daniel Karslake’s documentary on these 5 gay Christians, For the Bible Tells Me So, is the most eloquent argument I would ever hope to put forward on the interaction of religion and homosexuality. I am including the trailer for your pleasure.
I join the women of Malindi in asking you to apologize for your incendiary remarks.
This Kenyan Woman
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I think the father was right in one way. The emancipation of women, their ability to function as equals to men, has in a way made it possible for both themselves and the men around them to accept the reality of their sexuality. Further than that, I agree with you, if a woman had done all the ‘right’ things for either Chege or Ngengi, it would not have narry changed the core sexuality of the man.
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@afripot
Does that mean women have to be lesser to men in order to be more desirable (hetero)sexually?
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my people perish because of ignorance………………………….both arguments have merits and demerits…………………………………………………………..as we seek answers to triumph over the evils that surround us let us not have too much collateral damage…deliver us from our anxieties
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MY TAKE ON THE GAY SOCIETY- BLAME IT ON THE WOMAN
When I read the homily, I chuckled at the double entendre that his message brought to light. The first message, the battle of the sexes has been well covered. I prefer to use the path not taken.
In his patronizing diatribe he failed to address the main issue of homosexuality. Gay issues are no longer spoken in whispers but there are faces to it.
Africans can’t claim that this vice is un-African. A writer once wrote that:
One of the poorly kept secrets of the Buganda Kingdom was that Kabaka Mwanga was a homosexual. This is the Kabaka who supervised the martyrdom of Buganda during his reign.
This is just an isolated case but my point is that homosexuality is not only a western issue but also an African problem. The malignancy is further accentuated when the same gender couples are given a legal document recognizing them as man and man, wife and wife.
Such an illicit union, which I dare not call a marriage cannot be explained away or diminished as a foible, thus it has perverted and vitiated the whole concept of marriage as was instituted by God in the Garden of Eden.
The only plausible explanation to this grim evil that gay is, we are living at the apocalyptic age and it is only God who can save us from ourselves.
There was a time God made provision some immediate amelioration of earth’s growing apostasy and perversity by razing down Sodom and Gomorrah as a monument of humanity eccentric, these ruins are a grim warning and reminder that indelibly was impressed upon humanity as a wrath of God.
To the gay society (both in Diaspora and at home), victims of their own indiscretion and of the intrigue and artifice of a designing libertine that the devil is, upon reflection and steady mind, I need not inculcate the lessons which may be drawn from the woe fraught tale of Sodom and Gomorrah.
I wish it engraved upon every heart, that salvation, the acceptance of Christ Jesus, will secure lasting felicity from this venial sin. We can all take this step of faith by first dropping the gay lifestyle, then repenting all our other sins. Wish you all God’s Blessings.
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@ Dorcas, Hardly. The strength of a woman to accept her own right to contribute to societies economic and social development, while juggling her own needs, physical, emotional and psychological, that has inspired more men to look at their own selves with honesty and to accept themselves even more, be that be sexual, physical or emotional.
Mothers, sisters, friends, that is the power we have.
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This is hot! Lemme not add more.
Lin.
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@Lin
Thx much. I was looking for someone to hiss with me. SSSSSS!!
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@Afripot
At least we agree on that front. I don’t think he was right in any way. He was cloaking his homophobia in religion and using the product to shame women. It’s a power game. Kick the dog because it won’t kick you back kinda thing.
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